i know it's a silly question but my mom has been wondering about me :)) i just havent found the right person even though she was 21 and married she tells me that time have changed and does this seem normal ?
2006-08-30 15:04:49 · 54 answers · asked by miss_erica_2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Who said 30 and a virgin is abit odd? Im 36 and still a virgin because I too havent found the right one yet.......the right one being the one I will be with for the rest of my life......only when I marry will I consent to making love.
You are perfectly normal and yes its normal to be a virgin at any age. You should be very proud of yourself for not giving into the peer pressure you must face from friends. Your mom needs to be supporting you and letting you know its ok to wait that you dont have to do anything you dont want to do.
When the time is right God will place that special man in your life that you are meant to be with and when you marry your honeymoon night will be all the more special because you waited and your then husband will respect you so much because you saved that very special gift of your purity for him.
In today's society where there are social diseases that a person can catch so easily and not to mention the threat of aids that can lead to death.......I think you are making a very wise decision in waiting and I want ya to know Im proud of you for waiting and above all God is proud of you too.
You stand tall and stay strong.......dont let anyone ever talk you into doing something you dont want to do and always know that you are normal and being a virgin is a very good thing.
2006-08-30 15:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being 19 and a virgin. I am glad to hear that you are waiting for the right person instead of just sleepin around. A friend of mine will be 24 in October and has been with over 30 guys and been with a couple females as well. That is not normal. What you are doing is wonderful and dont worry about what your mom says. When the time & situation is right, it will happen. Dont worry about it.
2006-08-30 15:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by Southern Sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, if you haven't found anyone yet, she shouldn't be wondering. I think she actually should be proud of you that you're not doing every Tom, Dick or Harry that comes along. Times do have changed when it comes to sex and the girls are giving it away at an earlier age, but the married age has gone up, most girls don't marry until the have established themselves in a job which is around the age of 25. With so many marriages ending in divorce you're better of having a career first so you can support yourself just in case.
2006-08-30 15:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES VERY NORMAL. When you find the right man then time will be right and you will know it. There is nothing wrong with waiting like was done for generations before the baby boomers in 60's discovered sexual freedom.
Don't base your decision to have an intimate relationship on what others did? Like the old adage, if they jumped off a bridge would you. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, regardless of your age.
2006-08-30 15:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T let anyone pressure you into giving up your virginity just because "it seems like it should have happened by now" or "you should have found someone by now". That is WRONG! You are right to wait, and when the right man comes along (whether it's next week, next year, or five years from now) you'll be so glad you did wait. Remember, there are a lot more girls out there in the same boat as you, but they just don't talk about it as much as the ones who are sleeping around! Stay true to yourself!
2006-08-30 15:10:44 · answer #5 · answered by Deb F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only is it normal but very admirable.. more and more people are choosing to stay a virgin for different reasons.. some because of Christian morals some because of the dangers.. i have two grand daughters who chose this path and i am more proud than you will ever know.. your mom who says times have changed .. well to me for the better if this is a choice one is making...she should be so proud of you for remaining a virgin , if you were my daughter i would let you know just how proud.. don't let anyone push you into something you feel you are not ready for.. God bless you.. !!
2006-08-30 15:12:54 · answer #6 · answered by sandi4551 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, no one person or one way is 'normal' or right. You do what is right for you. I would think your mom would be proud of you for 'hanging on' to something so rare these days. I dont know you and Im proud of you!
I say, wait till you meet the right person. I know a guy who is in his early 20's and so is his wife. They just got married and they were both virgins. Its a really sweet thought, idea, way to live-to wait till you are married.
I was de-flowered at almost 16 by my first stupid boyfriend in high school and it was a stupid experience. I should have waited till I was more mature and -the most important- I should have waited until I really liked the person. I basicly did it to shut him up and leave me alone. I broke up with him the next day. I think it was wrong of him to pressure me into it. It was all for him anyway....I got nothing except my foot in the glove compartment and the used condom to throw out. Nice guy, eh?
Wait, wait, wait...if that's what you want to do. You seem to have a great sence of who you are. Good for you. :o)
2006-08-30 15:20:58 · answer #7 · answered by ShaMayMay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, your MOTHER has been pressuring you??????? it is perfectly normal. It is GOOD to wait until you are ready. If you have sex before you are ready, it shows immaturity and is usually not very enjoyable. People who have sex before they are ready tend to regret it. It is better to wait for a long list of reasons I won't quote at you. Research has shown that girls who wait are a lot better off, I will leave it at that.
I was 20 before I had sex for the first time, and I am perfectly happy. I think maybe happiness and readiness is a better criteria to judge whether or not something is normal, and not necessarily what most people do. To directly answer your question, most people in the US have had sex by the time they are 19, but that doesn't make them better off. Sometimes, it is better not to be "normal."
2006-08-30 15:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Psh, don't worry about when your mom thinks you should have sex!!! Worry about when you think you should. It's your life. Not hers. Is it normal to be a virgin at 19. I'd say it's very normal. Not common, if you understand the difference. Perfectly normal. Don't be pressured into doing it either. Hold out til you find a guy that you're open to having sex with. Then tackle him!
2006-08-30 15:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sticking with my usual answer.
Things happen at different times for different people. This isn't a race here.
At no point in your life should who you're dating, if you're dating, or how long you're single become a measure of your self worth, or if you're "normal" or "abnormal" This applies to sex as well.
When you meet the right person, and the time is right for YOU, you'll experience sex. It's not up to anyone else to decide when that time is.
2006-08-30 15:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by d h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋