He doesnt even do anything but hang out and have like 1 beer or so. He doesnt cheat. I dont know why I get so angry, should I change??
2006-08-30 15:00:21 · 21 answers · asked by sassycat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jealousy is a real sign of control. It's also a sign of immaturity. If you keep this up, you'll either lose him or you'll break him. Two things that will keep you immature and him in a worse state than when he met you. The best partner is the partner that helps the other grow...not wilt. Be proud in him and in your ability to grow and make him better. Women speak of love, but this is what love really is.
2006-08-30 15:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by strong and soft 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, what do YOU do for entertainment? Or are you stuck at home - you might get jealous becahse he's got an outside social life and you don't.
You cannot change how you feel, but you can change what you do about it. Think of why you are angry:
1) a good husband should need only me? (get real girl)
2) a good husband doesn't go out with the boys (really?)
3) I've put a few pounds on, so maybe he'll see someone and hook up with her? (your problem, not his - if you do'nt like the way you look, change it).
4) I wish I could do this - then go out with the girls, kick back, do movie night, or spa day. or something.
2006-08-30 22:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,Yes u need to change cause if he is not doing anything but hanging out with his friends then there is nothing to be jealous of.And if u keep being that way he may in the future give u something to be jealous of.No one likes to feel smothered or untrusted.And it is a real human thing to be like if AM going to be accuse of something or blame for something then i might as well do it.That happens alot so do yourself and your husband a favor and be happy that all he does is have a beer with friends and comes home to u some of us are not that lucky.
2006-08-30 22:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by motherof319662000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if he is a great husband like you say, than don't get angry.
If he's doing good things for you and your family and the marriage is going well, allow him to have his fun with friends too. Since you know he isn't cheating and you have trust then there is no need to be jealous anyway.
Changing is hard to do but just trust him because if he's a great husband like you say than he won't do anything to hurt you.
2006-08-30 22:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my children were small I'd resent that i couldn't go out with my girlfriends as often as my husband did with his friends. Now he goes out and i am happy! and i head to a show or shopping with some friends. I don't know why you'd get angry unless its because it's hard to find a babysitter if you have kids. Otherwise, I'd just do some more stuff with your girlfriends that you enjoy. Too much togetherness isn't good you both need space!
2006-08-30 22:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by ????? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to work on trusting him a little more. If he is completely honest with you and only has one beer, then he is not going to cheat on you. How often does he go out like this? Do you ever go along? Maybe if you went with him one night you would see that there is nothing to worry about.
2006-08-30 22:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you don't get to spend enough time with him yourself and you resent the time he spends away. Do you get enough attention from him? If you don't feel that you do, let him know, but in a nice, loving way, when you are both in an intimate mood. If he realizes that you would appreciate more time with just the two of you alone together or doing something special that involves just the two of you, maybe he'll make a date with you more often. I know how you feel.
2006-08-30 22:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your husband has done something to cause this jealousy issue you should try to be more understanding. Being jealous can drive the two of you apart. If you trust him then trust that he will come home to you a happier man if he doesn't have to worry about you being upset with him. Give it a try.
2006-08-30 22:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by Tammy G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, find some friends you can hang with. More than likely your upsett cause you're hanging around by yourself when he's out. You should change great husbands are hard to come by.
2006-08-30 22:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by Jes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you have friends of your own? You probably feel this way because he's spending time with his friends while you stay home alone. Unless all his time is spent on his friends, you need to allow him that space to be with them once in a while. Meanwhile you can find activities and hobbies you can enjoy and meet other people in the process. You have to have your own friends too.
2006-08-30 22:06:10 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋