Why is it that loud obnoxious kids annoy everyone but their parents?

Question

I don't have kids, and at this point, I don't know if I ever will. But why does it seem like when you're on the bus, or in a restaurant, or trying to sit quietly in a park, or in a grocery store, that someone who can't (or refuses to) control their screaming 3-year old doesn't appear bothered by the ear-splitting wails of their brat screaming for Coco Puffs and Pokemon? I've actually moved seats on the bus, and at restaurants because of this. Can someone explain it to me?

Okay, maybe some people who shall remain nameless (jasso, or whatever) totally missed the jist of the question, so I'll elaborate for the lame-brains: This is a scientific question. Do parents have some type of mechanism that enables them to endure the screams of their brats? I mean, how do you stand it? And dude, for the record, kids like yours, are the ones that ANNOY the CRAP out of me the most. Basically because you are trying to justify your poor parenting skills by telling me that I should shut up and put up with listening to your brats because you don't want to try enough to control them......get your mind right......you had them, YOU DISCIPLINE THEM.

Answer 1

I know what you mean. Parents should train their children to behave in public, but nothing in parenting is fool-proof. Basically, the parents have learned to tune it out. They listen to it DAILY.

Answer 2

hi there iam a mum of 4 and i can tell you us parents 90% of the time ignore our childrens yelling and tantrums for a purpose if we dont ignore them they will never learn that they cant have everything they want.plus if we yell at our kids all the time when they are not quiet they get worst and we look bad in public.but please keep in mind some kids like mine cant help it they may have autism or other desabilitys.
my children yell 15 hours out of 24 hours. we tend to get used to it as we hear it all the time we cant stop our kids from doing it but other people cant understand that making parents like me and my husband to stay at home all the time because the kids wont sit still.some children are really norty adn spoilt but when you are sitting quiet reading or having a coffee just remenber maybe that child cant help being the way they are .i too used to think the same way before i had kids i would go out and get a little eritated by kids yelling and running around .but as soon as i had my own i noticed how hard it is to control them and at the same time not looking like a bad parent.and when io was told 2 of my kids had autism and that they would problably do this even at adult life i new i was in for trouble.
let me give you some advice and others who feel the same way the next time you see a kid do that turn to the kid and say" whats all that noise i hear such a preety boy/girl yelling like that,my goodness,are you helping mum doinf the shopping today?"
usually that shuts the kid up fast.and you will get a smile from mum.i know this because many time when my kids do it older ladys will do this and it shuts them up for a few minuts at least.
if you are at a park apraoch the child with a flower say hello and ask "is this your flower cause its just as pretty as you"flattery goes a long way.
if the child stops and makes conversation and it repeats all you say(parrot) they have a mental dasability.please keep an open mind.

Answer 3

Ya some parents tend to do that. I don noe why cos sumtimes sleeping in the bus is the only santuary i can get after a hard day work and there some wailing kids start waaaaaaailing and their parents just ignore.
How sick can that be!!!

Answer 4

I think they have grown accustom to it. You know, like it started out small, and as they have gotten bigger the child's actions have become louder, but the parents don't seem to realize it.

I don't know, honestly.

I have a friend of mine, I grew up with this girl and we have always been close friends, but then she had a little boy. While he was small, he was chubby and so cute, then as he got bigger, she gives him stuff just to get him to shut up. Sometimes I wonder, does she realize how bad he is? I don't go around her because I do not like how her child acts. I also know that other people have stopped having anything to do with her because of her child's behavior. This is sad, but her sister-in-law has said stuff to her, and the little boy has since been kicked out of Kindergarten because of his behavior, and she still doesn't realize it.

I don't know why I went into all that, but I guess that is just life.

Answer 5

WOW. I assure you that "we" are bothered by the screams. And the only thing we can do to keep our sanity after trying to calm them down, is to ignore it, I assure you that we to are bothered by annoying people everyday but can not do a damn thing about it. See in todays day if we are to try to calm our kids down and nothing seems to work. Then if we go to the last resort of hitting we get smacked with a court battle between us the parents who wanted to have children or was blessed with children and the State Child protection service, who are there to protect children from beatings and all sorts of abuse, My kids are way more important to me then to lose them to the state because they were making noise that annoyed people on buses and in restaurants. We parents try all we can. And until ONE day you too become blessed with children of your own. I hope you remember your question and the responses you recieved from it. Because whether you no it or not You to was a child just like all of us, and you to gave your parents a hard time. So when you become a parent please come back here and answer your own question........Good luck......

Answer 6

because MOST parents don't WANT to see their precious brat as just that... a pain in the a$$. my advice: don't have kids. Don't be fooled by the old saying " oh MY kid will NEVER be like that!" because they will... kids will be kids, no matter WHO parents them... Hubby said the same thing, and my kids ( esp. my 3 yr old) drives me nuts, and the only way i can get her attention,is to spoank her and show her who is boss. in other words, don't have kids. If they annoy you now, imagiane you as a parent, when you can't walk away from the little ( darlings) monsters!

Answer 7

They say ignoring the behavior will change it. But parents do need to get their kids under control. I would never let my kid act that way. My kid would definitely get a time out and lose a treasured toy.

Answer 8

It can be rather annoying, but it's usually to the extent that most of us are intolerant and don't like to be disturbed as kings and queens. Try to bear it and be as patient as possible.

Answer 9

maybe the kid isnt TRYING to annoy other people... maybe they just want attention. Why parents dont do something about it? maybe its because the parents just got so fustrated that they just ignore it

Answer 10

see those r just bad parents bc my 3 kids neva acted up when we was out n about they was brought up the right way