When you were dating it was hot passion and infatuation and love...even into the early years of marriage. BUT what is marriage like after 5, 10, 15, 20, years of marriage? Do you still have the same passion and love for your spouse? Or does your passion waver a bit? Tell me the good and bad aspects of marriage please!
2006-08-30 14:48:54 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I'm at 5 years and counting. It has difficult times of course. You get two imperfect people together and there are gonna be issues at times. You hopefully get what you give in marriage. If you can be selfless and just love the other person the way you want to be loved, then they will likely respond in kind. Love and passion do change over time but if you keep working at it then it gets better because then you have two people who REALLY know each other. I wouldn't give up my marriage for anything. There was a time when I wasn't this sure that I wanted to stay married to my husband but I stuck it out and I'm so very glad I did. I think it's definitely worth the work to spend every day with your best friend.
2006-08-30 17:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by tallgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been married for 7 years and known each other for 12. You just get used to each others ways, likes and dislikes etc. You could say the passion is still there, but in smaller amounts, with a child, a house to keep, both with full time jobs, it takes alot of work. Its worth it though. The sex is still good too. Just not as much as when we first met.........used to do it at least 3 times a day. Now we are at 3 times a week.
2006-08-30 22:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Passion in a marriage is a choice. You can choose to be faithful. My marriage is full of passion more hotter than ever. 16 years later. It took work and lots of choices. I can say I made a choice not to get fat not to stop being the Hot sexy woman He married. I don't take my husband for granted . I haven't turned him into my son He's still my man. Also I'm not his mother I'm his hot wife. Passion takes work but oh it's so worth it.
2006-08-30 22:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married the love of my life and I hate his guts. I'm sure he'd say the same about me. But we've kept it together for 21 years and have two great kids.
We are complete opposites and yet we understand each other better than anyone else. I'd never leave him but I have considered shooting him. just kidding.
After 21 years you have to learn to not sweat the small stuff and always keep laughing.. laughter is so important. I joke with my friends all the time that my husband is trying to kill me for the insurance money and yet everyone who knows us knows that he adores me and that I don't have insurance.
The passion dies, sometimes it will re-ignite, but love isn't just about passion and sex. It's also about respect, compatibility and willingness to compromise. That's what keeps a marriage together because the reality is, most of us aren't fortunate enough to find that perfect someone.
2006-08-30 22:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole Z 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to work to keep the passion there. My motherinlaw told me after I got married to have sex every night w my husband even if I didnt feel like it just to always try. I followed her advice and I feel it has worked. I know it sounds crazy but some people just get angry or tired or whatever and stop trying. I really believe you should always work on your marriage. Try new things, like buy pretty lingerie or rent a nice motel room for the night. My husband did that for Mothers day. Took me out to a nice restaurant and then to a hotel with a jacuzzi. Nice huh? We have been married 7 yrs w 2 kids. My only complaint is that sometimes he likes to go have a drink with his friends and for some reason I always get mad. He only does this like once a month. So I am trying to learn how to maturely deal with that. If anyone has advice. Other than that marriage is cool.
2006-08-30 21:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by sassycat 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I Got Married Yesterday But We Had Been Dating For 5 Years! Yeah
2006-08-30 22:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, looks like SOMEONE doesn't know how to satisfy his wife!!!
For those of us who are lucky enough to have husbands who know how to treat us, marriage is good. You just have to remember that it is a two way street. Neither one of you can carry the marriage on your own. When you BOTH work at it, the passion just grows. In a different way than it was when you were dating, but in a better way.
2006-08-30 22:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by Laurie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 5 years and with him for 9 I can say that we still have a lot of passion..we have our fights and all, but in the end we still have a lot more passion and love than anything else.
2006-08-30 21:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by hahaha 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ok, I have only been married for 2 years, so I am not sure I am the best person to answer. But anyways, it is different. Mostly in a good way. We may not be as hot and heavy, but what we have is much deeper than that; sweeter. It is more intimate and has grown very much. We know each other backwards and forwards, and love each other far more deeply than just sex and chocolate.
btw, we DO still have sex (real sex, not "beat it off in the shower sex") QUITE often, it is QUITE better, and it is DEEPER than the "hot and heavy" time of dating. Just because one guy isn't good enough in bed to get it very often and must "beat it off" in the shower, doesn't mean everyone is like that!!
2006-08-30 21:52:39 · answer #9 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When it comes to my marriage at first it was great because we use to have sex alot and now that we been married 10 yrs. Everything has changed. We argue alot, no sex at all, we do not go out like we use too, too me it's become a business marriage. We pay bills, take care of our children and that is basically it.
Boring and I am tired of it, the best thing that came out of this marriage is the children. This is why I don't regret it too much...
I envy married couples who are still in love after all those years, how I wish that was me....
2006-08-30 21:54:53 · answer #10 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋