2006-08-30 14:36:50 · 59 answers · asked by Salley T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
af-fair [uh-fair]
–noun Meaning: An intense amorous relationship, usually of short duration.
well.. most affairs don't happen because of love.. it's because of lust. IF .. the key word here.. "IF" he loved you.. he would have already left his wife.
You are good for one thing, .. the affair.
If he leaves his wife for you, it'll be because he got caught and his wife was smart enough to throw his azz out .. and he'd need a place to stay.. so he'd tell you he loves you.. "baby it's gonna work out.. trust me".. the same thing he's telling you now.
2006-08-30 14:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by Min 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Statistically, the odds are SO against you.
Have you heard the "my wife doesn't understand me" - "she won't have sex with me like I like it" - "we're staying together until the kids are grown"? They're tried but true excuses that end up in never leaving his wife.
It's been a year. Where do you realistically see the relationship in 5 years. Will he have married you? Why? He has what most guys dream of - two women to have sex with.
If you're satisfied with "just being the other woman" - then you'll be forewarned. You can't go out with him because someone might see you. You'll never see him on the holidays or be able to introduce him to your family - he'll be with his "real" family. He'll call you pet names during sex so he doesn't use his wife's name instead of yours. If you want a baby, good luck. What type of relationship will your child have with his/her father? How do you explain why daddy isn't home for Christmas or why he doesn't go to school activities or ball games.
You've got a big choice to make. And if you want children, please think about this would impact them. Oh, and you getting pregnant won't make him leave her either - you may find out what a jerk he is when he tells you to have an abortion.
Think long and hard. There is SO much at stake.
2006-08-30 14:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you know the answer to that question already.
And if he did leave his wife, would you really want him? I could never marry a man who had a long-term affair on his wife. That says a lot of negative things about his character. Now, don't get me wrong - sometimes a a guy will screw up and give in to temptation or whatever, and it's possible for him to still be a great guy. But a long-term secretive affair? Being willing to lie to somebody he supposedly loves for a year? What dose that say to you?
2006-08-30 14:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by farmgirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im not going to voice my opinion on the fact that your sleeping with a married man im not going to judge you. However I will say to you Did you know he was married when the affair started? He is probably playing the both of you. I would tell his wife. I think she has a right to know. And I know it's hard but you need to move on. Does this guy have kids with his wife. That just makes it worse.ANd maybe harder for him to leave.
2006-08-30 14:42:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shame on you for asking that question. And shame on you for getting into that affair. Find a relationship with a free man. Put yourself in the wife's position. Then feel how it would hurt you. Pray hard and leave them alone.
2006-09-03 13:42:11 · answer #5 · answered by mother mission 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read the story section of the Other Woman.com site-- you will get your answer. Dating a married man is like going to a party and at the end of the night taking a swig from all the leftover drinks laying around- you know- the ones with an inch in the bottom and cigarettes butts floating- and saying "this is a great drink!"-- don't be a vacation for a man who is forever straddling the fence of his life because he is a coward-- you deserve a man who can give you his whole heart and doesn't throw you leftovers like a dog in perpetual heat.
2006-08-30 14:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ONE year! I know a person that was dating a married man for 15 YEARS! He never divorced his wife and ultimately found a new love. Don't waste your time. He can do the same to you, as he has his wife, and probably will. What are you thinking?!
2006-08-30 14:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by Paige2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't pay too much attention to the insults on here.. I'm sure you didn't set out to destroy someone's marriage and we can't always help who we fall in love with.
The reality is that he really has no reason to leave her. He has the best of both worlds (and possibly more!) so unless you rock the boat, he'll stay and have his cake and eat it too.
I always say it's never good to leave one person for another and it goes the other way too. It's never good to be the one who "stole him away"... it brings way too much baggage into the relationship.
Unless you are content to always be second best, you would do yourself a big favor if you just let him go. Don't offer ultimatums.. just let him go.
Good luck.
2006-08-30 14:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole Z 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best question of the night!!Get real a year now!No honey he isnt going to leave his wife for you believe me im sure everyones answer on here will be the same as mine.He is just using you till he either gets caught or you push him leaving .You need to find a real man that loves you and isnt takin.
2006-08-30 14:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by blondie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh gosh - this is a bad situation. Get out now before you get hurt even more! Even if he does leave his wife he's already proven that he's a cheater and you'll always be worried that he will cheat on you next. You have to believe that you deserve better than him and go out and find an honest, trusting relationship!
2006-08-30 14:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by noyb 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋