What's the point of marriage, then?
2006-08-30 14:33:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sure that can happen. The point of marriage is a bond between two people who love and trust each other. They devote themselves to making the other person happy. They take a vow in front of God promising to never part.
Unfortunately some people do not know their spouse very well. There are liars out there who can spin a tale so well that you think they are different people. When you marry and live with that person their true colors show through.
The only way to avoid this is to date for a long time and get to know the person well before the marriage. Talk to his friends and family to find out his history.
2006-08-30 14:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your question? I dated my first husband for 3 and 1/2 years and then lived with him another year before I married him and he was great. 2 hours after I married him he beat the crap out of me and let me know I belonged to him and this is how it would be etc.... I was married for 21 years to him and he violently abused me the whole time and cheated with other women the whole time. There was no "Point" to my Marriage - it was what it was - a loveless violent union that I was trapped in for 21 years!! I was basically his slave and house keeper, cook and what ever else he demanded. It is easy for people to say "Oh Divorce him! and Oh! You don't have to take that! Oh! just walk out and leave! Right! I guarantee they have never been in an abusive situation where you are controlled and when you do try to leave -they stop you!Or when you do manage to leave they find you and make you come back!. It is not as easy as it sounds and I was lucky to get out with my life! I fought for 21 years to get away from my ex! For those of you who have never been in this type of situation...stop giving advice before you get someone seriously hurt or worse...because you have no idea what you are talking about or dealing with! Police and Attorneys are useless in these types of situations..I know! So again I ask what is your question? There is never a point to any abusive situation! Married or not!
2006-08-31 08:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by lil redneck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know. I'm in the same boat ('cept I married a woman who cheated). Not sure the 'point' of marriage but we DO have two wonderful children.
The kids are awesome. The marriage...not so good.
2006-08-31 01:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by intheholycity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know him well enough to know what he's like in all situations then you are not ready for marriage. If he is abusive---leave him anyway you can and now. He will only get worse and hurt you alot before he kills you. Get out of it now while your alive.
2006-08-30 21:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by EMAILSKIP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's the thing.
They pretend to be caring, genuine, loving men to get a marriage because maybe they want someone to cook for them or support them financially. Then, they (not all men but some-yes) start acting unappreciative, inconsiderate, abusive, etc.
They want to have their cake and eat it too.
2006-08-30 21:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all marriages aint bad if you go into it wanting some one to share your life with and you took the time to know who you are marrying but most of the time we see the warning signs and tell ourselves that its going to get better it is what it is for better or worse
2006-08-30 21:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by reno_tony_casino 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yes that is what happened in my first marriage.. i was just 21 when i met him and he was 28. I just did not want to believe other girls that told me what he was like.. I was dumb enough to think they were just wanting him and trying to scare me away.. i wish i would have listoned to the women they were only trying to save me the pain.. I grew up and grew strong and divorced him.
2006-08-30 21:40:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your lucky, he shows his true colors before you tie the knot. In answer to your question? YES. Divorce him. Find a good divorce lawyer.
2006-08-30 21:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes that could happen, and there is no point of marriage with a man like him......leave him
2006-08-30 22:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but there are usually waring signs before hand that you didn['t want to believe. BUT there are those dogs that treat you great then marry you and EVERYTHING changes
2006-08-30 21:37:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋