Hey, I'm 16 years old & have been in a relationship with this guy for 6 months now. I've been thinking a lot lately, if I should still be with him or not. Reason is, well for one he's kinda mean to me sometimes also he just doesn't seem like his real with me.. He told me yesterday that he goes by life as a liar..I asked him.."So, do you lie to me or what?" Of course he denied it.I don't know..I'm so fonfused! I love so much, but my friends have been bringing it up on how bad a bf he is..I don't if I should lisen to them or not..I mean I am happy with him..it's just, I guess they have made a few good points.. such as "yea you can find way better" & stuff like that..I don't even know anymore..Err..Stay with him???Or....not....I need some oppinions!!! Stay with a guy who is mean sometimes, but then times I'm madly in love with him? Or just let him go and find better..=[.....
2006-08-30 14:14:50 · 26 answers · asked by Savanna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I made a typo, They arn't neccarly my "friends" my sister achually...& I do think for myself..She's just been putting things in my head..So yeah, I can't help it..Oh, and sorry if my question doesn't make much sense..I'm so confused right now...A lot of you guys, are telling me to dump him & I can find better..& like "IM YOUNG, I have plenty of time & what not.." Well, I love him...Young or not..I don't think age should even matter...then again..I am "young"...Ha....I don't know....
2006-08-30 14:37:26 · update #1
if you are really in love with him...then you should try to work this out with him by talking...communication is the best thing in a relationship...always remember that..
2006-08-30 14:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by Dan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why be with a guy that is mean to you at all? He admits to lying, and believe me, some people just love to lie. If he's admitted to it, just think of all the lies he has already told you. I've known a couple liars, and I just thought they lied alot. Later on you find out that even the things you thought had to be the truth, were nothing but lies. They make up lies when they don't even need to. You need to drop him and stay away from him. He will only get meaner and tell more lies. Believe me, I learned the hard way. And you are way too young to even be worrying about stuff like that. You should be hanging with your friends now and having fun. I know it's nice to have a boyfriend, but please get away from him. The more he thinks he has gotten away with, the more he will try. Bad news for sure. Sounds like he probably had a really bad role model. Run!!
2006-08-30 21:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Vicm0322 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, what do YOU want to do? Because in the end, it's not your friends who are going out with him, it's you.
Based on what you wrote, I would say it's a good idea to keep your options open. By this, I mean take a break, and try going out with different people for a while. If you find that other guys treat you better, (which, any gentleman would never ever be mean to a lady such as yourself) then go out with that other guy. Because this occasional mean-ness could just be a glimpse of what it could be like if you two became super-serious, I'd recommend walking away while you're ahead.
2006-08-30 21:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by Awesomeness!!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are even asking the question of whether you should stay with him or not, then you probably already know the answer. If he doesnt treat you right, then let him go. Maybe you guys need a little time apart to see if there is really something there or not. Don't ever let someone be mean to you. You are more important than that.
2006-08-30 21:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are very young and have your entire life ahead of you. Kinda of mean? NO, That is NOT acceptable. He has admitted to you he goes through life as a liar. RUN from this young man. Run and let him grow up. Find someone who can respect you and love you. Find someone who is not mean to you, who is not a liar and who is respectful. You deserve that much and more.
2006-08-30 21:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by Ness 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer, are you sure you don't just want or have to have a boyfriend. Why would you even want someone to treat you like that. I don't get it why people stay with people who obvioulsly doesn't care for them. your 16, dump him and move on chances are some other guy is just waiting for you to do that. Good Luck!!!Have fun
2006-08-30 21:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you're 16. You should NOT even have a boyfriend at 16. The average life span is 80+ years. You have ALL your life to have a boyfriend. DUMP this guy now - he sounds bad, and not nice. Enjoy your life girl... unattached!
2006-08-30 21:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are young and this seems like a bad catch so definitly dump him and find someone better with better values and morals than lying and treating you mean
2006-08-30 21:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by tustudent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM. If he is mean sometimes it is too much. There are guys out there who are not mean at all. You are too young to put up with that kind of crap. Look at it this way, what you put up now only gets worse later.
2006-08-30 21:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by stand_nxt2_my_fire 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Savana, you are just 16 years old. your whole life is yet to come. you are way too young to settle for guys like this.
think about this... if you love yourself then you need to realize that you deserve more than what you are allowing yourself right now.
your friends love you and don't want to see you get hurt. listen to them and stick with them, they won't hurt you...
2006-08-30 21:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by Storm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would certainly let him go. You don't need a chain like him. Why, not be free and just have fun. It'd be more fun with others and besides,you are young and why be tied with one. I almost forgot if he is mean to you in anyway, dump that fellow. FAST. So, Thanks and God Bless.
2006-08-30 21:22:33 · answer #11 · answered by grams40 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋