My one roommate (i live with 5 girls), her boyfriend cheated on her over the summer with MY best friend from home and I just found out because my best friend called me drunk last night and told me.... All of the roommates know ( i needed their advice) and we are trying to figure how/when to tell her... this is the second time he's cheated and we are pretty sure she will take him back but drama is soon to come
2006-08-30 14:11:58 · 23 answers · asked by tustudent 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
TU?? Tulsa University? Anyway, tell her. Better to tell her than to feel guilty when her heart gets broken and you know you could have slightly prevented it.
2006-08-30 14:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Callie Ann ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard when you know they will take him back anyways but you have to tell her right away especially since everyone else knows. Try to be there to support her and take her mind off of him so maybe she will leave him for good.
I was in a similiar situation where I let a married couple stay with me while they saved some money to move as the wife was pregnant. While she was away one night the husband who was my friend tried to sleep with me but I am not like that and I took it as a joke and tried to forget about it. I couldn't tell her because she was pregnant and I didn't want to upset her. I also knew about rumors at work that he was cheating on her with two other girls but again I had no proof and what is the point to tell her if she will stay and will only get hurt. In the end she found out, stayed with him. Cried to me for not telling her and making her look stupid and I ended up the bad guy!
2006-08-30 21:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by Amy >'.'< 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be careful with stuff like this. Often the friend you tell turns on you. It is a catch-22 because if she finds out you knew, you could still lose her friendship. Just sit her down and very gently say something like, "I am soooo sorry to have to tell you this, but. .. " Also, are you SURe he cheated on her? If your friend was drunk, she may have just been talking whether or not anything actually happened. I would talk to her sober before breaking the news to your other friend.
2006-08-30 21:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say to keep your mouth shut. Its not your life and you only know because theis other person called you drunk. For all you know it was a lie. You are a gossiper for haveing even shared it with the rest of your roommates. I would be pissed because my business is my business. You had no right to tell anyone but the one it involves. I would not live with you just for the simple fact that you shared my persoanl business with others. If she wanted the others to know once you told her then that was her business not yours.
2006-08-30 21:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, confront your roomate and tell her what you saw and ask her to keep you confidential in yoru advice if it helps. If this is one of your good friends, be sure to tell her how you feel and the truth! It is not worth your friend falling into love and ending up hurt in the end, or becoming come side project for a guy to bang!
Bottom line: Friends can last forever, boyfriends won't.
2006-08-30 21:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by Pinkish Marsh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it might be best to stay out of that one. If he cheated.. its his conscious he has to live with. I know you love your friend and want her to know the truth, however.. will it hurt your friendship as an end result if you tell her, when it really isnt none of your business. I am not trying to pick on you.. but sometimes (depending on people) might take offense to this moment of truth. You know her better than anyone.. you have to make that final decision. I think if it was me.. I would hunt out the cheater and tell him you know and let him do his own dirty work. Good luck.
2006-08-30 21:22:47 · answer #6 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would zip your lip, sweetie. You are saying that your friend told you when she was drunk. How do you know that she is telling the truth??? It is none of your business so stay out of it. You all sound like a group of immature little girls....it is not the end of the world! The truth has a way of manifesting itself eventually. Pay attention to your own life.
2006-08-30 21:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drama is indeed soon to come if you open your big mouth and spill the beans. Two words apply to this situation: BUTT OUT! This is NONE of your business so why don't you and the others get lives and find something else to do!
2006-08-30 21:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question! You are damned if you do, and damned if you don't. I'm not sure if I would want to get involved. Some things are better left unsaid and forgotten. See what time brings and go from there
2006-08-30 21:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way would be honest about how you found out and just tell her and be there for her if she needs you
2006-08-30 21:15:09 · answer #10 · answered by laencm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋