ok heres the deal, ihave been remarried for almost 5 yrs,and have children with my hubby,i have been divorced from my ex for 9 yrs. we also have kids together and they live with him. my ex loves drama and to cause problems, mainly for me!its been like this for 9 miserable yrs. with this man.he lies constantly, lying to cover up lies,always calling me not to talk about the kids, but to tell me how he`s gettin married,mind you he says this like monthly,he always has medical problems he is whining to me about and he over exaurates,one time he told me he was having toe surgery, it was a hang nail, lol.and i think he`s told me he has had 3 heart attacks, i stopped counting after the 3rd one.he`s always has some sorta crap going on all the way down to actually telling me he had crabs!among other things he has contracted.well ok so not to bore you guys to make a looooooong story short, couple weeks ago he calls me at work wanting my full address for his lawyer.re:shared parenting
2006-08-30 14:10:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well after that he avoided my calls for a week, then he stopped over the other nite to tell me how someone is lookin for me from children services in the county he lives in, i live elsewhere, have for 9 yrs.didn`t make any sense so i called csu and they had no knowledge of any of this bogus crap, what the hell!!! whats ur opinion,? he is driving me nuts!
2006-08-30 14:13:31 · update #1
what should i do about all this nonsense?
2006-08-30 14:18:39 · update #2
and your question is????
2006-08-30 14:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to put limits on the conversations. Tell him you will no longer talk about anything but the kids when he calls. Limit him to this topic only. If he starts to tell you more lies, just tell him he has crossed the line and you will not talk any more. Then just hang up. Keep a log of all the calls including day, time, length of call, topic of call. Also add to this list anything he brings up that is not directly related to the kids. If he tries to cause any more trouble just head straight to a lawyer and find out what he can do. I have a feeling that a registered letter from your lawyer with the facts you provide from your call log will be enough to stop this nonsense.
2006-08-30 14:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not even speak to him anymore. When you see your kids or pick them up, make it very short. Take the kids somewhere don't spend time there. Get caller id, when he calls let the answering machine get it. If the kids have an emergency or something, and are trying to call you from the same number, make a secret phrase that only you guys know so that you know its legit.
2006-08-30 14:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the early stages of my relationship with my guy the ex wife would love to phone him for everything, by the third phone call of mind numbing nothingness, i finally told her that hey if it involves the kids phone all you want,knock yourself out, but as for anything else he and i really don't care, the kids is the only ties that bind, not her personal life and day to day life bye bye now.click. maybe if you try moving on from him he'll stop, cause as long as you keep acknowledging all of his lifes woes he'll keep phoning, so tell him to get a new shoulder to cry on, you did mention he was getting married right
2006-09-03 12:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some ex's don't or refuse to let go they make it they whole life mission to make you fall into their trap to justified their vindictive behavior. Unfortunately its not one gender or the other is your children safe? It sounds like he would used them as pawns just to hurt your new relationship and new family. Maybe you should ask for your lawyer for another evaluation on his role as a parent. Dealing with a vindictive ex is the worst I really feel for you and your kids.
2006-08-30 14:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just patronize the man, or make what he tells you into a joke. I bet that will p*** him off and sooner or later he will stop. Other than that, you really need to set boundaries on the conversations.
2006-08-30 14:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by J j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to set clear boundries with your ex....tell him you don't really care about what is going on in his sorry life....and that he is only to call when he has to discuss some valid issue regarding the children.....otherwise you're not going to listen to his dribble.
2006-08-30 14:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by Tony 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
own issues might desire to point basically approximately something. regularly each and every physique is very particular approximately their motives for breaking apart, except they have something to conceal. i think of the private situation belongs on your ex - or something they have carried out that they do no longer pick you in sorting out approximately.
2016-09-30 04:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop calling you and everything or else call a lawyer and see what you can do get your ex to stop bugging ya
2006-08-30 14:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋