Is this normal in most relationships? i know there are 2 sides 2 a coin yes I did break her heart and lied to her...can this have done it? Serious answers only please. I always...put her down for this.
2006-08-30 14:06:39 · 17 answers · asked by sunshine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a man asking the question !
2006-08-30 14:12:02 · update #1
To the woman who thinks I am making this up my husband did really want to know only he used my name sunshine ..This is for real are you ??I chose you as best answer cause you are something else for thinking I did this myself (wife).
2006-08-30 14:16:13 · update #2
old woman 84...dur did u not read my husband used my aviator to ask this question with her permission durrrr!!
2006-08-30 14:28:56 · update #3
sit down and have this conversation with her thats your wife sit down and have a one on one talk with her only she can tell you why......work with your women.........
2006-08-30 14:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by minnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she ever initiate sex before you lied to her and broke her heart? That will let you know if it is due the the things you have done.
I am in my early 50s, too, and am finally getting to my peak sexually. I am afraid I may wear my guy out. If your wife does not initiate then she may be too afraid to trust you. If the trust is gone there is no reason for the sex to continue in a woman's mind.
Has she had a check up lately? Lack of desire can be caused by a lot of different physical conditions. I had to have a hysterectomy and hormone replacement. Now my sex drive is better than it was when I was 30. She may want to check this out.
Unfortunately, as a woman, I feel the problem may be that you broke her heart and lied to her. If she has no trust in you then she will not want to initiate sex with you. Women link sex and love together. If one is gone, the other has no meaning.
I would suggest you have a heart to heart discussion about the situation with her. You may need to go to marriage counseling to try and work things out. I have no idea what you did, but you may have to crawl on your hands and knees to apologize to her.
2006-08-30 21:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u really messed up cause i am in that same situation except we still have sex. set down and talk 2 her let her know how feel apologize 4 what ever it was u did and try 2 fix the problem. me and my wife are taking this 1 step at a time .be patient don't try 2 force her to have sex when she not really feeling u.when u guys talk hear her out just like she listen 2 u and go from there.
2006-08-30 21:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anthony D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that your personal hygiene is good.It is amazing to me how many men over 50 don't bathe, shave ,floss, wear clean clothes, etc.It is a sign of self respect & you will be someone she wants to be with.Take her out. Have friends over.Be sweet to her.A wise woman once said that a man emptying out a dishwasher is her idea of foreplay.Actions really do speak MUCH louder than words.Give her gifts---they don't have to be anything fancy-flowers from the grocery store, a card,bring her her coffee in the morning just the way she likes it....and whatever you do, eliminate from your life what or who ever broke her heart.Trust is everything.
2006-08-30 21:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by tvlscat@flash.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots of women wdon't like to get things started. at our advanced age we remember when things like that just were not done. You could even find a virgin to marry. My wife won't either. she says its because i rejected her once. But she sure is a willing partner once things get started! I think its because she is insecure about her body. So what you need to do is pat her on the behind when you get a chance and whatever else [anything goes] you can think of to make her know you find her sexy. Don't get in over your head tho. women tend to peak later in life.
2006-08-30 21:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by La-z Ike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you broke her heart and then on top of it lied to her then what do you expexct she has feeling and you have emotoinly hurt her and that is a deep hurt just like a wound it needs time to heal give her some space be patient talk with her ask forgiveness and communicate with her and try being nice to her what it took to get her that what it take to keep her good luck
2006-08-30 21:27:44 · answer #6 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, it is not usual for women to initiate sex in our society. She may be very insecure about your reaction and not sure what to do
Then you said you broke "her heart and lied top her".
Are you still giving the wrong signal? Are you very open in your relationship with her? I suggest you stop putting her down. try to boost her ego and make her feel good.
2006-08-30 21:14:48 · answer #7 · answered by sexonsight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt do that to her you already hurt her shes probly having a really hard time and is hurting you have a lot of making up to do start by saying sorry and tell her how pretty she is then go buy her something nice and take things slow dont just try to jump into bed with her give her the space she needs take things slow
2006-08-30 21:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by sohot4u22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a female avatar--yet you say you are a husband. I also read your previous questions. You have a very good imagination and your question is not worth answering. You have greater problems than is in this imaginary question. Have a good life.
2006-08-30 21:23:22 · answer #9 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is going through menapause and if so, you need to be patient with her. The body goes through all kinds of changes during this time in her life. Don't put her down, it will only turn her off.
2006-08-30 21:13:56 · answer #10 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bub, if you are 62 and are this shortsighted and clue-less, then there is no help for you! I would expect this type of question from a teenager!
2006-08-30 21:12:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋