I can't stop. If there is an attractive girl in a room, I go and flirt. I have a girlfriend who I am in love with, yet whenever she isn't around, I can't help but flirt. I never do anything with the girl I am flirting with, I never cheat. But this is something I need help with. And I can't just stop hanging out with girls.
What can/should I do?
2006-08-30 13:59:13 · 4 answers · asked by Lex Crimmins 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
reverse the scenario, ur gf cant control flirting with other guyz, 4 sure u'll get mad, think of her wen ur doin it with others...
2006-08-30 14:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't stop. for one thing, you can't - it's too natural and too much fun. for another, it's not a bad thing at all! flirting on its own is completely harmless, and does nothing more than make people happy so long as everyone knows the situation i.e. you already have a lady friend who you are perfectly happy with.
i have the same 'problem' in that i love to flirt, and i really do it without thinking half the time. but it is so much fun! i don't have very many straight guy friends, most of my friends are girls or should-be-girls - i just find them more fun to hang out with. i also have a fabulous girlfriend who i love to bits - but it doesn't stop me flirting. she knows that i would never cheat on her, i know i would never cheat on her, and whoever i'm with knows i wouldn't cheat on her. if anything the situation is much easier when you do have a girlfriend - i've got in trouble much more often for flirting while single than while i have my girlfriend! if you're single and you flirt with someone but don't want anything to happen, you have no excuse if they want to take things further. but when you have a girlfriend, you can just say so and everything's cool - the girls will know you're just flirting and have a good time with you!
it really is harmless - i assume your girlfriend also trusts you implicitly in which case she has no reason to feel hurt or jealous - after all she's the one who gets to take you home at night! and if she doesn't trust you?? well, you probably should find someone who does.
it's important that you never try to change to fit someone else, if they don't like it they can move on and you'll find someone who thinks your flirting is great.
good luck anyways mate, and have a good time! hope this helps a little.
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in regards to the other people who've answered, i appreciate what they're saying, but you must know that you'll never cheat on someone you truly love. knowing that, flirting should be a safe and fun part of life, as you are confident that nothing bad could happen of it. the only important factor is to make sure nobody is in doubt of your position with your girlfriend.
2006-08-30 21:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by Nic C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a pig and step up and be a man.
If you keep flirting it'll lead to cheating and you'll be a cheater for the rest of your life.
Ask yourself when you see an attractive woman is she worth ruining a happy home? Because if you flirt and cheat in the end, you'll be the unhappy sucker.
2006-08-30 21:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you truly love and care for someone you will stop flirting on your own. If for some reason that never happens then you have never found the right girl. I will pity you then because it means you have never known happiness from another human being.
Good luck.
2006-08-30 21:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋