The woman I love forgot she loves me.Her past make her block emotional memories.How do i get her to remember?

Question

She had a traumatic past with physical and sexual abuse. I found out after we got involved. I have been with her two years off and on. I have never met anyone I have cared so much about. Everything was fine and one day something happened and she forgot everything about us. She remembered our friendship but nothing else. She freaks out anytime I start to say something about it. She refuses to talk about it, and she does not want to deal with the problem or get any help. She has problems yes, but I cant help how much I care about her. She is the only woman I have told I loved and was honest about it. She does think that I am telling her the truth about everything, but there is still that look in her eye that shows fear every time that she looks at me and she is afraid to be alone with me. I want her back in my life and I need help. I have done everything that I can think about. I care about her so much, but what do i do? how can i make things right with us? I need help.

Answer 1

You can't rescue her. She needs professional treatment for a LONG time. You need to get into a relationship where you don't have to rescue a distressed damsel. If this is what you choose, it will never change. You know how the deck is stacked.

Answer 2

You have a major problem.
Sounds like you have a very sick person on your hand, or a hell of an actress.
Either way you are screwed.
It's no different than if you found she has a terminal disease.
If you can't reason with her, about getting help, you are either at the mercy of a sick person, or you have to move on.
Many people who still love much, face this same dilemma and finally do move on (as in divorce, which also is often the result of a type of sickness in one or the other marriage partner).

Answer 3

THIS IS FOR YOU TOO. READ IT PLEASE:

From Georgianne, thought it was good so Im passing it on...

Hello all my dear friends,
I hope your all doing well.
I read this somewhere and thought it was so insightful. I know a bunch of you are married, getting married, considering marriage, or just in a relationship. I thought this was such a good script about how to view life with someone else...hope it helps:)
Luv,
Julie


If you're not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."

Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self- esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change

someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children

of God who have decided to share a life together.

Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other?

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.

If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.

Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a

thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong?

Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on their voicemail, cell phone or send a nice email.

Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family

situation.

Respect his or her parents regardless. Don't put pressure on each other for material

goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship

will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.

The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the I

Answer 4

Frankly speaking, I would wager you had a similar problem trying unsuccessfully to make your (unhappy) mother happy as a kid. Now you're repeating the same thing all over again, trying to help unhappy women. It won't work, you'll never have a happy fulfilled relationship this way. Sorry.

Answer 5

if you have any pics together also little things maybe a card or things she gave you and you gave her give her something and just be a friend fornow shes going through a lot and maybe something happened to her recently and she scared ask her if something did i would call a doc and also look up on line there is a lot of information on her condition

Answer 6

The best answer I can give you is to go to a psychologist and address the issue, from there on depending on the manner of the issue they may suggest a form of therapy or counseling.

Answer 7

It sounds like she needs to get professional help before she gets involved in anything else with you.
Someone besides you needs to help this woman recover from her traumatic past.

Answer 8

She needs help. She can't be in any relationship until she deals with her past. Get her some help.

Answer 9

Oh, Brother! You are both ****** up and there is nothing that anyone on Yahoo is going to tell you that will help! You both need intense psychiatric help!

Answer 10

show her in little ways every day how u feel about her. this can be fun for u because u both get a chance to fall in love again. its very fun and romantic. good luck