There is a boy at my highschool that always flirt and hit on me. He dont act like hes gay because he plays sports and lift weights, but it seems like he want to like me but cant in public. He always make sexual questions and comments saying can I go out with him. So is this person gay or goy or just setting me up to admit I am gay. He been doing the same thing for 3 years. Back in middle school he used to be really mean to me but now seems to really like me. Every time he get close up on me, its like I can feel that he is trying to hit on me
2006-08-30 13:41:55 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Tread carefully. It sounds like it could be either gay and curious, or setting you up for a big fall. If I were you, I'd avoid him, and if he asks you why, just say you're sick of him messing with you.
2006-08-30 13:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by ndtaya 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy probally is gay and at the same time could be homophobic, so approach it very delicately because high school is a difficult time. I experienced this myself in high school, but I was the one who was the football player and lifting weights and really liked this guy, who seemed gay and one day after school I was finishing my practice and he was on a break from the drama club(yeah that would seem gay right?), and I approached him and do you know he said he wasn't gay and then proceeded on trying to embarrass me the remainder of the year, so he could be afraid that you(even if you appear obvious) might not be gay and then he'll feel like an idiot. So approach the situation with caution.
2006-08-30 14:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by lovebfasd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is goy? This is rather confusing. He is probaly gay..or bi. I dont think he is just joking or trying to get you to confess anything. I mean come on, hes been doing it for 3 years. No one is gonna do that for that long.You need to let this guy know that you aren't gay..unless you are..then that would be odd.
2006-08-30 13:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he may have some issues and has not really dedided upon his own sexuality - it is a hard decision when you are at high school. I would not make a move - if he can decide what he wants he may decide he likes you but if you make a move he will probably pull away in fear and leave you both hurt.
Just be 100% nice to him and he will soon enough realise his true feelings whatever they really are.
2006-08-30 13:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by monkeymanelvis 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming that you yourself are a gay male...For starters, there are plenty of fish in the sea. The big question for you is - is telling him you like him worth the humiliation if he is just messing with you? Unless you don't care if people think you are gay. I'm also assuming you're pretty much in the closet? Maybe he is confused and doesn't know exactly what he wants?
2006-08-30 13:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well speaking from experience (as a prodomitilly gay male!) I can get attracted to girls just as much as my straight counter parts. though it happens FAR fewer! And only in extreme circumstances.
Now as to what you shoud do, is a personal question. He might be doing this as a joke, or it could be sincere. Since he doesn't do it in public he might be trying to keep his image or *he* doesn't even know how he feels.
I suggest you bring up how you feel, do you like him in any way? would you like to be friends with him?
Becase you can bring this up as a friend, uniquly concerned. Or just some outsider saying 'What the fuc& is your problem?'
Your call.
Hope it helped, if you need more just email!
~Roger
2006-08-30 14:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by vainpeacock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's trying to make it look like you're gay.
But what does it have to do with being a goy?
2006-08-30 13:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had many similar experiences in school. These kids behaved in much the same way as your acquaintance, years of hostility and then trying to come on to you. In my opinion they want to find out if your gay and if you come out to them they'll either beat you to mush or tell everybody else.
I recently ran into one of these people again and after 40 years confronted him with this behaviour, and guess what, he denied any memory of it and also confirmed that he never ever had any gay experiences at all.
Augusta
2006-08-30 14:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a risk
how do you feel inside do you fancy him rite if you do you can take the risk by meeting up after school and go for a burger and a game of bowling or something like that and see how it goes
don't jump or read the signs wrong cause he might be genuinely looking to hook up as m8s if you are gay and you want him to make the 1st move then hell go for it
2006-08-30 13:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the hel* is goy? and by the way a lot of gay men work out and play sports. where have you been?
2006-08-30 13:45:56 · answer #10 · answered by redheadedjilly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋