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Question

Well, I am 13 and I am in 7th grade. Well, do you know how there's all the dating things? Well, I am not interested in that. I seemed to be more attracted to men. Well, what do you think of this? I dont know what to do. I do "have" a girl friend just to make sure i am not left out just like the others. well, should i tell her? But i am afraid shell tell everyone. My parents dont know about this. How old were you when you first became gay? Is it bad? Am I too young? What about masterbation? Can you give some advice for me? If you know what i mean.

Answer 1

Dear Evan,

Give yourself a break and let things happen. You don't have to come out either way yet. When the opportunity arises experiment with sex with people of your own age. And by the way you will remember these first experiences all your life. Just see what you're comfortable with and, remember be careful and play safe. Safe sex that is.
At your age it's normal to be unsure about your sexual preferences so just take it as it comes and ENJOY!

PS: I had my first gay experiences at age 13.
PPS: What about masturbation. I'm not sure what you mean. If you're cut (circumcised) you might find masturbating with some baby oil (or specialized sex lubricant) on your hand makes it nicer,

Answer 2

You've got a lot of questions here! Let me see if I can help you with some of them...

Firstly, there's absolutely nothing wrong with being attracted to men. About 10% of the population of earth is gay. 13 is right about the age when you start to fully realize your sexuality. Don't try to fight it, that will just make it more difficult.

I would break up with your girlfriend if I were you. I know that it might make you feel left out, but it's not good to string the poor girl along. If you're not comfortable with telling her you're gay, then just don't. Tell her you're not ready for a girlfriend, or that you just don't have time... tell her anything. Oddly enough, I was 14 when I broke up with my 'girlfriend' (I'm 33 now) and I did tell her it was because I was gay. We ended up becoming great friends, and she was like my "confidant" all the way through high school- my best friend, the only one who really knew about my being gay.

As for masturbation... well, the best advice I can give you about that is just practice, practice, practice until you get it right!!! LOL

Good luck, be safe.

Answer 3

The only person you could consider coming out to is someone who:
(a) who would not spill your secrets
(b) has been your good friend for two years or more
(c) openminded
(d) someone whom you are very comfortable with

if there was even a small doubt that the person could not fulfill the above, then don't coz there are endless consequences associated with coming out to the wrong person.

As for your gf, give her an alternative but honest answer (as it is easier to defend when she questions you). Don't tell her you are gay coz you doubt whether she would keep it a secret.

I was your age when i first realised that i had feelings for guys.
A five year old boy may noticed something but would not have realised he's gay until he is around his teens.

mastrubation is a safe way to release, relax and get creative :). there are several websites that can give good tips. Normally you would fantasized but it is possible to get high without fantasizing.
It's a personal experience which i can't advise you on except to look through different websites, read different materials, try it and see what turns you on.

Answer 4

Okay darling, I know *everything* you are feeling plus a few years!

I (unlike some of my conterparts) had many girlfriends, and be came quite the man-slut in my early years of highschool. I was alway called mean names becase I wasn't as masculin as the other boys, and I wouldn't demote women, I had a load of female friends! (the reason I was a hot guy was becase I cared more about them then I did about me, so like in bed I would please them more then I would get, which should have been a flag since I wasn't really aroused by like breasts and stuff)

Now I wouldn't keep around the girlfriend if you really don't like her, since at this age she will freak out and stuff, so I think you need to end it. Just think of it as being fair for her to find someone she likes and likes back.

You don't need to tell her or anyone for that matter untill you know first! don't feel obligated even *then* to tell people.

I *knew* I was gay my Sophmore year in Highschool, like that is when I came out but I had feelings all the way back through out my life, and it hasn't been until now that I see them in their truth.

For your questions on masturbation, I don't know what you are asking so you can email me that, and I can tell you personally and honestly.

Hope it helped, please email me, I really want to help, and you can ask me anything you feel you need, and I will anser, I hope to help you.

~Roger

Answer 5

I wouldn't say anything to anyone until you've tried being with a guy at least once to see what you think about it. then you ccancome out when you want to, with no pressure. I was about your age when i realized i liked guys better, so you're not too young to know you're gay. If you can't find a guy to be with, nothing is wrong with mastrubation. Straight and gay's do it, male and female

Answer 6

Theres no reason to tell anybody, they probably can't handle it. That includes your parents, some parents have done terrible things to their gay kids so put that off until you are independent, like with your own place if you are at college or if you have your own job. Good luck!

Answer 7

Well you are a 13 year old minor, that explains why you misspelled only, and because you are a 13 year old minor I have no advice for you what so ever.

Answer 8

Don't get all caught up in the drama. Do your homework, and do well in school. Forget all the socializing till after high school. The you can be gay all you want, and it's no one's business.

Love, Jack.

Answer 9

Wait a little more, at your age 90% of us were confused, then time pass by and find the real me.
Masturbation is OK it relaxes you.