I'm sitting here waiting for him to come in and he just has but, he's gone straight to bed as if that will save him from being asked where he's been until this hour? Do I ask tonight or give him a chance to dream up an exotic answer for the morning?
2006-08-30 13:33:15 · 26 answers · asked by Harriet 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nag, nag, nag.
It's only 7:40 where I am.
2006-08-30 13:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's really hard to say without knowing your relationship. I think it's common decency to let someone know when you won't be home the usual time.
If this has been happening and you've already confronted him before wait until morning and go on like nothing ever happened. See if he brings it up himself. If you've tried that approach before and he acted like nothing happened, then ask why he just went straight to be without talking to you. If you've never tried confronting him before, but he's done this in the past, it might be time to do it.
It's not normal in a relationship where two people care about eachother to avoid the other person unless they are hiding from something--and that's not an adult way to deal with things.
Trust is important in a relationship. If you don't feel like you trust him, you need to find someone you can trust.
2006-08-30 20:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by nomadsister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you playing a childish game as well?
Not all men are childish. May be you just pick 'em that way or treat 'em that way. What's that say about you?
He obviously went straight to bed to avoid his "mommy" asking where he's been "until this late hour". Maybe he's not the child, maybe you're the nag. Maybe that's why he didn't call you to tell you he's going to be late as well. Maybe he figures, damned if I do, damned if I don't - so he chooses to avoid you.
Take some personal responsibility for the situation you are in. Ask yourself, what are you contributing to this relationship that makes it the way it is.
2006-08-30 20:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him sleep its been a long day and has had too much to drink his nerves are a little shot afraid someone would see what he was doing.Wow the stress of life and bet he will come up with a good one.See if he will look at you dead in the eye when you ask him..Sorry your going through this.
Not all men are like this and bet your even happy with yours at times till something like this happens.
Tell him your going to play tag and its your time for play and bet he stops his crap. Good luck be happy smiles!!
2006-08-30 20:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somewhere out over the mid-Atlantic right now it may be late, but certainly no where in the United States.
I've been married for 31 years, and if my wife had thought to ask me to answer for every minute of my time during the course of that period, I suspect it would have been a good bit shorter period.
Maybe it's not that he is a kid so much as you think you are his mom.
2006-08-30 20:43:37 · answer #5 · answered by anonymourati 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, asking him NOW will probably not result in any satisfactory outcome; due to the hour, and people who are physically tired will not be in their best `thinking' mode. I am also referring to YOU! SO - even though I know you have unanswered questions, you know that you cannot resolve this with any satisfaction this evening. I am sorry for your pain: and asking you to `shelve it' for even a moment, is asking alot, but, being honest with yourself, you know as well as I do that there will be a show down, and that you WILL get to where you need to with this: be patient, and give yourself a good night's sleep! Good night!
2006-08-30 20:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by Bluebells21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old saying, ' the difference between men and boys is the price of their toys'. Of course, you could adopt the attitude, that I'm not going to ask questions I don't want to know the answer to. This will not aid your situation though. Where do you think he was? If you really want to know, go in and ask! If he lies, just say, "your lying to me" and decide if its worth an argument or not.
2006-08-30 20:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by jack w 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, girl...let him sleep. You would know anyway if he was lying by the morning. Besides, what's to say he hasnt already got that exotic answer ready now.
Yer, Men are kinda like big babies. But luckily we Women are maternal.... we are prepared and equiped to handle 'em. LOL
2006-08-31 05:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by cookie_recipe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much trust showing here is there on either side.
Why don't you take up an evening class without telling him.
If he asks you where you've been after your first class then you can talk about each knowing where the other is.
If he doesn't ask then perhaps he doesn't care as much as you hope he does.
2006-08-30 21:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by CeeVee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in a lot of ways men are just like little boys. I would go upstairs, or wherever your bedroom is and ask him where he's been until whatever hour it is where you live. Don't wait til the morning.
2006-08-30 21:05:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
At least you are aware that he will make up a story. He obviously has no respect for you.
What would be do if you stayed out until the wee, small hours with no explanation? Maybe you should try it & see.
2006-08-31 02:02:35 · answer #11 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋