I NEED HELP I'm WEIRD AT SCHOOL?

Question

I feel really depressed right now.
It's Like i've been telling myself alllll summer that when school starts i'm going to be so much more outgoing and make new friends and not have to hold on to the 2 fake friends i have at school. I wore a perfect outfit..got my hair done...makeup..didn't help.. and then when lunchtime came i didn't know what to do so i just walked back and forth looking like i was going somewhere and watching all the other people interacting.i just wish i could be more social and not so like introverted or something....i don't know exactly what i'm asking but i just need advice becasue i feel really depressed and i don't know what i'm going to do tommorow and i just don't want this to ruin my grades like it did last year....i have always gotten perfect grades....when i'm at school by myself i think everybody thinks i'm a loner and a loser....i try so hard to make my physical appearence "cool" but my personality....i dont know right now i hate it

BY THE WAY I'M IN 10th GRADE. AND YES TODAY WAS THE FIRST DAY.

Answer 1

hey lil sweetie: I think the key to happiness is to quit worrying about what YOU THINK everyone else is thinking about you! None of that really matters in the long run anyway! How YOU feel about YOU is what shows!
When you knock off the worry, you will be relaxed, and WE ARE ALL easier to approach and get to know when we are relaxed! Just remember to be feelin' good about who you are!
GOOD LUCK and be at peace! X

Answer 2

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I was exactly like you. In college, I finally decided that I LIKED being a nerd and I liked who I was. I DO wish I was more social/outgoing/liked sometimes. Go on Amazon.com and look up the book "How to Be a People Magnet," then look at all the other ones that are in that category. There are a LOT of books like that out there. I have only read the one, but there are other ones that have higher ratings. it helped a little, but I am who I am.

Btw, I am VERY HAPPILY married and have a baby, so being "weird" doesn't make you unlovable or undesirable. I am not the prettiest thing in the world or the most outgoing, but I DO have lots of people who love me (my family, my husband, and a couple of really good friends). I have decided I have QUALITY, even if I don't have QUANTITY.

Good luck to you! I totally remember what it was like, and how I felt like I was a loser and I always would be. Keep up your grades.
That will get you far in life. when you go to school and make lots of money because you have 3 doctorates (lol), people won't CARE if you are a social butterfly! :)

Answer 3

Don't worry about it. I had that problem alot. What you have to do is start on a small level. For example, if you like a particular sport and find someone wearing a shirt or if you here them talking about something you like, interact. Start in the conversation, they'll accept you as you seem more friendly and know what you're talking about. Or ask someone near you for some help on a homework question. Get the conversation rolling and try to lead into a longer talk. You'll make friends. Just take small steps. I almost got it. I got 1 friend now and we're working to get into a click with some other kids. Good luck!

Answer 4

LOL! Well I'm weird everywhere if that helps. I just got used to it and decided that I wouldn't worry about what people thought. If I want(ed) to talk to someone or meet them I do and did. Inside, I feel like a total geek and like I never have anything interesting to say, but there's people who like me and so I guess it works okay. I took a personality quiz once that said that I was shy but too stubborn to show it. If you want to be social that is what you gotta be. Too stubborn to let yourself cower in a corner and hide. Don't forget that everyone feels stupid or weird from time to time and that other people are just as nervous as you are about meeting new people. Good luck and I hope this year is better for you.

Answer 5

Okay. School just started, right? You're not going to make friends instantly. I know you want to, but that's unrealistic.

Don't try to dress to fit in. Dress and apply makeup so you feel good about what you see in the mirror. If you can smile at yourself before you leave the house, you can smile at others, and others can smile at you.

At lunchtime, try to sit next to someone in your class. (Someone who seems nice, preferably who you're working on a project with or something.) Or find an extracurricular activity that you're genuinely interested in. You'll have something in common with all the other people there, right away! And then you'll have people to sit with.

Give it time. Try to make yourself happy. That will make you more interesting to others. Right now you're radiating desperation. I understand why you'd be desperate, but it scares people off, at any age.

*hug* Try to find something to enjoy about your day tomorrow.

Answer 6

As long as you don't go shooting people for attention...you'll make freinds.
Since you tend to be good in school and tend to be a thinker.....you should see about joining some club.

I had a few friends after I did some sport stuff.....and other things.....where they are now....who knows....it's rare to know anyone after school is done and over with.
I only kept in contact with one every year or so for 26yrs.....but he died 2 years ago.

Cool is ok but if you have to try..you could look like an idiot.

Answer 7

i know eactly how you feel! that is how i felt my junior and senior year in highschool i said i would do the same things but i never really tried hard enough and people in highschool are very judgemental when it comes to friends... i dont know what to tell you, all i know it college is a lot better because it doesnt feel like you are being judged as much anymore.. good luck! maybe you can join a club or something and make friends that have the same interests as you or volunteer at places where you can meet people

Answer 8

Wow, this is really weird. I'm basically exactly the same as you, and I wish I could help, but I don't know what to do either. I always want to go back to school more confident and less of a loner, but I can't do it. Just letting you know that your not weird and not alone.

Answer 9

don't try to be something you're not. Just be yourself, and don't worry about what other people think of you. I'm telling you, if you just act natural it will be a lot easier to make friends. If you are confident, then people will see that you are confident and want to be around you, but it will take time. Just tell yourself, "Although I may not have ___, ____, and ____, I'm still the coolest motha fucka in this school," and you will be

Answer 10

Trying to act cool is never cool.
Knowing you are cool and owning your own attitude is always cool.
Hang out with everyone and if they can't deal with your style that's not your problem.
People's confidence is cool, not the way they dress or wear their make-up.
So don't try to gussy yourself up to fit in...that's definitely uncool.
Take it from me...I am after all the #1 Vato!