Have a little dilemma.?

Question

I have been communicating with a guy who is deployed to Iraq. He can home on leave by surprise this past Monday. We had a really detailed conversation. We both have one child each. We both have been divorced once. He asked me if I was thinking about getting remarried, and I said not really. He also asked me if I was interested in having more children, and I said sometimes. I told him I would be a better girlfriend at this satge of the game, and he said he thought I would be a good wife because I am very supportive with his military career. I have a career also. The part that tripped me out is he said that he really wasn't sure if he had the energy to invest in a serious relationship, but he wasn't referring to me particularly. He also said that relationships take time. I tried to read between the lines but I don't think this guy is trying to tell me he's not interested, but I really THINK he is scared that this relationship might last. What do you think?

Answer 1

If it were me I would take it very slow. See where things head. Being in Iraq I am sure he has been through alot. Stay supportive of him and just follow your heart. I wish you both the best of luck. God Bless him for doing what he is for all of us.

Answer 2

First you've got to ask yourself, how long has he been divorced? How long have you been divorced? Perhaps, the phobia of remarriage still frightens the both of you at this current stage. But this guy definitely is showing interest in you. Maybe what he wants is to remain in touch with you but he doesn't want to rush into things yet.

Answer 3

Why at your age would you feel the need to be in a relationship where you have to "read between the lines". Either you need to find a man who talks "straight" or you need to start hearing what he is telling you without looking for lines to read between.

Answer 4

Maybe, he is trying to tell you that he is interested, without pushing you.