How do I tell my dad i'm pregnant....AGAIN!!!!?

Question

I'm only 16 years old, I don't believe in abortions or giving up a baby for adoption, back in May me and my boyfriend didn't use protection and I was pregnant I was about a month and well I told my dad and he freaked out on me but he got use to the idea and everything with my family was perfect, well in the middle of may I had a miscarriage and I told my family I miscarried so they told me to use protection for now on and well we were dumb and didn't listen....well now I just found out I'm pregnant again and I don't no how I'm going to tell my dad again and my boyfriend wants me to tell him today....WHAT DO I DO?!? Can someone please help me?

Answer 1

XXXXXXXXXXXX 16 and pregnant again? OMG YOU don't believe in abortions? Apparently you don't believe in abstinence or condoms as well. What the hell were you thinking? It's too late for advice. You've created this problem, now your poor dad has to support another grandchild. Soory I'm so hard on you, I'm a PARENT. XXXXXX

Answer 2

Well its never easy telling your parents a thing like this. He will be even more upset this time, I think. You really should have learned a lesson from the first time. At any rate, you need to tell him so you can start getting the prenatal care you need.
But protection isnt just for birth control. You need to protect yourself from STD's also. Please dont think it cant happen to you, I was recently at the doctor and overheard that a 13 year old girl was diagnosed with gonorrhea. 13!!!
Having a baby young doesnt have to keep you from doing the things you want to do. I had a baby at 17, still went to college and everything worked out OK. But once you do have the baby, please go to family planning and get on the Pill. In case you ever have a situation where the condoms break, you are still protected against pregnancy. Do not tell the boys you date that you are on the pill otherwise they will not want to use condoms.
Now back to your dad, the best approach would be to tell him that you know he will be dissappointed but you have reason to believe you are pregnant again. I do not think there is any other way to tell him. Hope it all works out for you. Good luck.

Answer 3

There is only 1 way to tell your family. Have him come over, get them (your family) together and have him tell them what has happened.. again. It takes 2 to make a baby and why should the responsibility be put totally on your shoulders?

Honey, I was 15 when I had my daughter and not that I regret keeping her, because I do not, not for 1 second, but you need to rethink the adoption for an option.

Where do you work? Where does he work? Can your combined income afford a home for the baby, formula, diapers, doctor visits, baby sitters while both of you work and attend school? I know people in their 30's that struggle with these things.

Face the true facts to this matter, he is not going to be around forever. You are more than likely going to wind up a single parent. That is hard for anyone little lone a girl of your age. How do you plan to work and finish school with a baby to take care of all of the time?

You are so young and truly have no idea what life is about and what you want out of life.

It is a hard spot to be in as I very well know. I had to work, go to school, and take care of my daughter.

I am sorry you have found yourself in this position, but remember you did not get yourself pregnant, it took 2. You need to involve him in dealing with your parents, why should it all be your responsibility.

Answer 4

OK first of all i was pregnant when i was 16 and had my boy when i was 17 he is now 11, and a great highlight of my life...and me and his dad split and we are getting along better, i am remarried and have 2 more children..but OK for you..here's what i feel

Sorry about your miscarriage you must have been at a loss..
Maybe the reason why you became pregnet again is because you miss that baby you didnt get to hold..for me i had one and it was like my life was falling apart and nothing could help me get past it till i had my 2nd child..who is now 3..

So maybe before you healed in your mind you made this decsion and the mood was right and it happen..there is no going back but it is my hope that your boyfriend stays with you and holds you through this because it is very much worth it but it also is alot of work on your body and changes in your life..

This baby has to become the most important thing and you will have to make sacrifices, as in give up sleep, feed them, cloth and take care..but in return of all that your child will grow up and love you and make you smile, and when you think your life is a mess they will make you laugh or smile..

I do not know how you will tell your parents..my mom and grandma backed me..my boyfriend at the time said he would hold me the rest of my life but it just didnt work out..but we both moved on..

So many things can happen here..and you always have to look up but i do not think since you lost a baby the best thing for you to do would be to get rid of the child..maybe you need something to love and hold..maybe your lonely..i was..maybe you need to search the reasons why you did this other then the heat of the moment and exsplain that to your dad..

Answer 5

Being a parent I want my children to come to me if they have a problem. Whatever it may be good or bad, I'm the parent. I might be mad and upset in the beginning but I'm here to help also. So seems to me that your dad backed you up the first time so you owe it to him to be honest with him. Since you and your boyfriend got in this mess both of you sit down and talk to your dad. What's funny I didn't tell my dad the two times I got pregnant and I regret it because he wasn't there when my kids were new borns and I think he might of wanted to but I was scare to tell him. I hid both pregnancies til I gave birth. Of course I was a little older than you but I was still afraid to tell him. I should've just told him. So go ahead and tell your dad in the end he will love his grandchild anyways. Remember to use protection next time having a baby is a lot of work for the rest of your life.Good Luck and don't do it again!!!!!

Answer 6

i'm at a loss for words. She's no longer a authentic individual. in certainty, a woman who tells adult men what they choose to hearken to and then scams them. that's a leech on society. tell your dad to get off the information superhighway internet site ASAP. coach him the data. with the help of those different web content have been you waiting to %. up her "authentic" call. Is she needed? Your dad is being blind-sighted, you may desire to tell him. each and every so often people who're lonely are the main gullible and don't see the undesirable ingredient of yet another. that's the dream of happiness that retains their eyes glossed over. i'm getting comparable to a packed little room with human beings scamming and giggling their way into conning lonely human beings. enable him understand.

Answer 7

Just be honest like you were last time, so your parents can provide support (both financial and emotional). If you don't wanna fess up to not having used protection, AGAIN, then simply tell them the condom broke, or say you did use protection. You can skip the lecture from your folks right now, you need their support, and its a little late for them to tell you to use protecton anyway. But in the future ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS use AT LEAST one form of protection. See, now I gave you the lecture your dad would have given you, so he doesn't need to know.

Answer 8

Do you want the baby. Obviously you do cause you didn't use a condom. I agree with you no abortion. Keep your baby if you believe u can take care of she/he. If your father loves u he should be able to deal with it. But i doubt who could think of as his little girl anymore or trust you anymore. Next time USE A CONDOM! you are 16 u shouldn't even be having sex. You think you would have learned your lesson the first time?
My condolences on your miscarriage. Hope you are ok. Hope you have a beautifully and healthy baby! Good Luck!

Answer 9

Well, I cant help but say you deserve whats happening to you. Maybe leanr from your mistakes. I dont mean to come off rude. Adoption is the best idea for you. You're gonna have to tell him. Obviously he knows what to expect from you so it wouldn't be a problem. If I were your dad, I wouldn't even suggest using protection, I would keep my eye on you and ground you forever. But obviously, your dad expects what you doing and so you dont have a porblem like I said.

Answer 10

hey dad u r right i cant keep my legs together at 16 so one is in the oven.u should have more sense
once a mistake but 3 times u need help not even old enough 2 get a job probably bf isnt working neither.tax payers like me and everyone else working will have 2 keep you and bf up

Answer 11

Well eventually you will have to tell him and the longer you wait the harder it's going to be. Generally he's going to be upset, I think all dads get upset when they learn that their little girl is going to be a mom. Has your boyfriend told his family yet? All the pressure shouldn't be on you to tell your family, you know them better than he does and you will find the right time to tell them. Putting pressure on you won't help any. You just have to be honest and tell your dad the truth, eventually he will accept and understand it. Good luck to you!