I am really really sad!?

Question

I just started High School and i am miserable. I feel i have no real friends, and just aqquantances here and there. Its only the first week, but i feel so bad sitting alone while i see all these groups of friends everywhere i turn. Plus, i dont really know anyone in any of my classes. The person i thought was my best friend has the same lunch period as me but i think she is avoiding me. I have already explained that i dont have anyone to hang out with and that she never says hi to me anymore, without me having to practically jump up and down in front of her to get her attention. Plus, I dont want to be rejected by her again when she just says hi to me and expects me to go away. She hangs out with the popular crowd, and i've tried to get along with them, but they don't really like me. Im not a new kid at school, and ever since i moved here my longest close friendship hasn't even lasted a year. I am shy, but i would do anything for just one good friend. No mean comments please. Thanks

To the last person, I'm not an untrue friend...I think its just that I can't adapt to the changes in my friends, in middle school people are trying to find their identities and they can be a different person in less than one year. I guess my friends grow tired of me and I don't socialize that much with other people, so it's hard to find new friends after something like that. Just clearing something up...

Answer 1

High school sucks...trust me, I was in the same situation (though it was quite a few years ago!) Your so-called "best friend" is the opposite: it seems that she is not a friend at all, but one of those people who like to hang out with the "cool kids" and seeks popularity.
My only advice is to just strike up a conversation with someone in class, someone you see sitting alone (or in a small crowd) at lunch, anywhere. I know that being shy sucks sometimes, but sometimes you have to go out on a limb and just talk to people. Before you know it, you could have tons of friends. And if not, well who cares? Honestly, it does suck. I only had a handful of friends in high school. I was pretty geeky and quiet and didn't quite fit in. But I survived. And you will see, one day, that high school was stupid, the popular clique was just dumb, and that you're over it.

By the way, I've seen lots of the popular kids from my high school on Myspace...Pretty funny that now I'm hotter than all of them *lol* It's just high school...You'll make it!

Answer 2

I am sorry that you are so miserable. It does suck not to have any close friends. But you need to not be so down on yourself. Perhaps maybe you should do something to boost yourself confidence like maybe get a makeover, new hair cut or color. When you do things to make yourself look and feel good, you feel better about yourself. People pick up on these feelings and you will see people start to treat you differently. I wouldn't even bother trying to hang out with the popular people it isn't worth it. All they will do is use you. Also you might try getting involved in like choir or drama, you always can find good people there. Give it some time, you will find someone. I will keep my fingers crossed for you...good luck and keep smiling..:)

Answer 3

What is it that you are doing that is preventing people from remaining friends with you? There has to be something that chases people away from you. Take a long hard look at yourself and figure out if you were popular, would you be your friend??? Don't gossip, don't lie, and try very hard never to betray any trust. There has to be a reason that people stop liking you...you just need to take a long hard look at yourself and figure out what it is...take responsibility for your actions, don't blame others for your faults and make amends no matter what the cost...If you said something hurtful or untrue about someone you not only need to apologies to that person you hurt, but you need to go to everyone who heard your lie or hurtful remark and apologies to them and tell the truth and don't make the same mistake again. People will more than likely forgive you once, but twice is pushing it. Be a true friend and you should have no problem keeping your friends or making new friends.

Answer 4

First of all dont feel bad if you have no friends in high school. Kids in high school tend to be immature and very offensive. Thats not their fault they are just going through that phase of life. When you get older and you will meet mature people that will like you for who you are. If your friend ignores you then she is not a real friend and dont bother with her anymore. Trust me on one thing you do not wanna be part of the popular crowd. Those people are so wrapped up in themselves that they will not appreciate anyone but themselves. You do not want to end up like that. If you are looking to make friends, find a hobby. For me it was martial arts. I met people that enjoyed similar things, they understood me. But it does not have to be martial arts for you, it can be whatever you desire to do. Eventually you will make new friends. Just have patience and be nice and understanding, even when others are not the same way with you. When you develop a pure soul others wil notice that and take you seriously.

Answer 5

The best way I found to make friends was to be a good listener and to not talk about myself. People love you if you are interested in them. Just stay on the sidelines of the group and act like you are the happiest person in the world. Never complain and only have good things to say about others. See if things slowly get better. Without knowing you, it is hard to pinpoint a reason but just remember that people like being around others who are good listeners, caring, and who are pleasant.

Answer 6

You know kids can be really mean. Maybe you should get involved in a club or two and maybe you will meet more people. Smile at everyone even if you don't know them. Say hello and be friendly. Some people probably just don't know what a wonderful person you are yet. Good Luck! :)

Answer 7

Just don't feel miserable. Sooner or later you will get a s.h.i.t load of friends who will care for you and who will also hang out with you. All you need to do is go and talk to a lot of people. Join clubs, sports, and participate on activities that are around your school that way you can meet new people. Talk to your peers that are in your class that way you know people who are in your classes. Don't stress it. You'll get friends. Trust me :) Good luck and I wish you a s.h.i.t load of luck lol
Ciao and take care!

Answer 8

Wow, just like my sister except she found friends. No fence. I may only be in fourth grade, but I can help you. Well, just try talking to someone in one of your classes and maybe even ask to sit with them at lunch! Once you get to know them, maybe even invite them over! Hope this helps!

Answer 9

I'm sure there are others like you who don't feel they 'fit in' with the mindless lemming cliques that are too full of themselves. Maybe you could become friends with one or two of them. At least they can think for themselves. :)

Answer 10

smile!!