what u do when your married and your husband or wife family act like they can' t leave him or her alone?

Question

i really should nt even worry about it because they really love him so and i do also i really just want to know what u think.

Answer 1

I think it's very hard for parents to view their children as adults. They always think of their children as just that: children, and try to smother them at all costs. They often find it hard to give them their own space and time apart once they get married. They unknowingly impose on their children's lives and of course they mean well but it doesn't always come off that way. I think the best thing is not to let it get to you. They can't help but want everything to be perfect in the lives of their children and while it is important for a husband and wife to grow together they think that their help is necessary. I think you should recognize that they do mean well and try to be receptive of their concern. KNow where to draw the line but also allow them to be a part of your lives.

Both my parents and my husband's parents live away from us so we barely ever see them and although you'd think it would be just perfect to live away from interfering parents we actually miss having our families close to us. You're very lucky that you have yours.

Answer 2

Oh god don't I know how that feels my mom and dad and my husband have always got along pretty well but my husband's family and I never did get along they were trouble makers and liars tried to break up our marriage but it never worked I remember a long time ago when my husband's uncle wouldn't leave him alone for the life of him and we didn't even have anything to do with his uncle anymore since he did drugs and started trouble all the time but I remember whenever he would see us he would stare or try to talk he would even follow our car or follow us around in the store what got it all to stop was IGNORING him when a family member can't leave your spouse alone talking doesn't help we ignored my husband's uncle and eventually he stopped being dumb we have nothing to do with my husband's family and they have nothing to do with us now when we see my husband's people since they know they won't get a rise out of us they don't bother us anymore if we see them in a store or something they keep walking I will tell you this don't get mad at them and don't start acting upset or it will get worse just simply ignore them and I can promise things will get better your not being dumb I completely understand you

Answer 3

Youre right there really isnt much you can do especially without starting the fight of the century. I know because my mother in law has been a pain in my butt for nearly 27 years and to this date if I say anything concerning her, watch out!. When we first got married in 1980, we lived in Denver and her in Cleveland, she would call my wife everyday and vice versa, sometimes 2 or 3 times a day to see if I killed her daughter yet. Now both phone bills were in the 6-700.00 dollar range. My wife had a good job and I was coming off a pro football career so the money didnt matter, but the idea did. She had to be in Albuquerque when both of my daughters were born to make sure I didnt do something to them either. We had to spend our first vacations in Cleveland and after that had to meet her parents wherever we went. And so it went, now there wasnt or isnt a day that goes by that I actually pray something happens to her to get rid of her. Ive kinda learned to ignore her as I love my wife and try to avoid the in law conflict. Now for the past 6 years she has lived with us due to 2 major strokes so its been a real picnic but I just dont talk to her or want anything to do with her. This week my wife and her mom are in Germany and I told her to leave her mom there and I think I started something worse than the Iraq war. So to save your marriage and peace, you somehow have to learn to live with it as it always could be worse. Good luck. Also tried to take her alligator hunting here in Fla. but for some strange reason wont go with me

Answer 4

As long as they are not being overly unbearable, leave them alone. The fact is that he belongs to them before you came along and in some family, they do not release loved ones. So bear up and make the best of the whole situation.

If they are set on making your life one hell then move to somewhere they cannot easily see each other. I know that these are the days of telephones and fax but life will soon find work for them so they forget the whole situation

Answer 5

that's a wedding ceremony made in heaven. You communicate about how warm she is and how she strikes. She likes your paychecks. you're both shallow notwithstanding it extremely works out because you both are transforming into what you want from the different. So the in simple terms problem I see is her not liking your household. yet who cares about that too, in basic terms tell the kin she's in basic terms round so that you'll be able to phuck and she or he skill not something.

Answer 6

WELL, HE CAN'T DIVORCE HIS FAMILY AND YOU DON'T WANT TO PUT HIM IN A COMPROMISING SITUATION WHERE HE FEELS THAT HE HAS TO MAKE A CHOICE...I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD DEFINITELY LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL, BUT MAKE SURE THAT THE TIMING IS RIGHT...I MEAN DON'T WAIT UNTIL YOU'RE IN THE MIDDLE OF AN HEATED ARGUMENT AND YELL OUT "THAT'S WHY I HATE YOUR FAMILY ANYWAY AND THEY ALL SMELL LIKE PIG VOMIT!" THAT MIGHT REALLY CREATE A PROBLEM. JUST LET HIM KNOW YOUR CONCERNS AND IF HE'S THE UNDERSTANDING HUSBAND THAT YOU FELL IN LOVE WITH, THEN HE WILL DEFINITELY TAKE YOUR FEELINGS INTO CONSIDERATION WHEN DEALING WITH HIS FAMILY...GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 7

I have the same problem with my inlaws. They're constantly in our business...or rather I should say WERE in it. After some serious issues with them I told him it was me or them. He called and told them that they were out of our lives b/c they were destroying our marriage by always butting in (he constantly told them to back off) After a few months of them not being able to see or talk to him or our kids they got the hint and now are trying to stay out of things. Take care of the situation now before you start resenting your husband for the way his family acts.

Answer 8

I feel for you, I have the same problem with my wifes family, they have thier nose up our butts all the time. I finally got to the point where I ignored her family. good luck.

Answer 9

everybody loves raymond all over again huh!!! just look over it they probably mean well long as they arent trying to cause friction between you and your husband i wouldnt bother with it if you get tired of being around they go out with some friends say you have an appointment or something

Answer 10

Just remember that families are all different. Accept them with open arms and they will love you the same way.