We have been married for 2 yrs. We're together for 3 yrs.
I know he wasn't a virgin when we got married neither was I.
He went to the doctor today because he tought he had hemorroids, but the doctor said it's STD. I went to the doctor months ago and tested for all STD and it come back negative.
Now I'm very confused... I don't know if he already had this for all this years or if he cheated on me. I'm also thinking that he could be gay, since he has something on his anus.
I'm going to the doctor tomorrow to make sure I'm ok.. but I still don't know what to do with him... He says he thinks he got it from me... because he didin't cheat..
What sould I do? Please write to me if something like that heppened with you before...
Thanks
Eva
2006-08-30 13:00:01 · 24 answers · asked by Eva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to ask him what type of STD he has. Depending on the kind it can lay dormant for years. My doc told me that until you have been monogamous for 10 yrs there is a possibility of dormant STD's. HIV is one of them. He may not have cheated but you do need to be careful Be sure to tell your doc what your hubby has.
2006-08-30 13:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss this with your doctor when you go get checked. I have heard that some STDs can remain dormant for years before showing up. See if your doctor agrees. Then have a talk with your husband. You have got to find out what actually happened before you can move on. Maybe he really didn't cheat. Maybe he has had it for years. I almost hope that is the case so you can stay together.
2006-08-30 20:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a shocker this has to be. I feel sorry for you what a blow this has to be.Probably your going to find out that your correct he is gay. Now don't that just beat all not only is he gay but has contracted STD in the process. You need to have a long conversation with your doctor tomorrow tell him or her everything.
If everything turns out the way you think it is what you need to do is open up a extra large can of whoop a** on him and kick his a** to the curb so fast he don't have time to say see ya.
Really i do hope everything turns out good for you and everything comes back normal. Good Luck on this sweetie!!
2006-08-30 20:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, thank God this hasn't happen to me, but I think your guy is playing you. He only said he thought he got it from you because the best defense is a good offense. I think you should talk to your gyno though and find out what exactly he has. I'm not a doctor, but it may be possible that he has something that could've laid dormant in his body until now. Honestly, I don't think its likely, but if you want to give him the benefit of the doubt... Truthfully, I believe he's been unfaithful and unless he's willing to come clean about that, you don't have much of a husband or much of a relationship.
2006-08-30 20:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by P. C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd find out exactly what kind of an STD it is because, if he thought it was hemorrhoids, maybe it's genital warts. He could have caught the virus for warts a long time ago - not necessarily while you were together. And just because it's on his anus that doesn't mean he got it from being gay. Find out what kind of STD it is and look it up to see how long he could have had it before he started showing symptoms. Don't jump to conclusions.
2006-08-30 21:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by farmgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and spouse really need to sit down and talk about this. If he is quick to fingerpoint, he may be the one who is not truthful. If he is sincere, both of you will need to talk about your sexual past. It's not an easy thing to do, but it needs to be done. If things relax a bit and you have sex, keep yourself protected. If you know you were faithful, but not sure about him there will be a lot of blaming between the two of you down the road and your marriage could very well fall apart. My ex-husband came up positive for a minor STD on his test. I was devastated because I wasn't educated about it and he was my first. I immediately got tested for STDs and it was negative. Things between us changed drastically later on. We were already having problems, but that added fuel to the fire. I never blamed him or yelled at him. In times like that you have to listen. We were together for 5 yrs and married for 3 of them. A year later I needed to move on so I filed for divorce. I wish you the best with this situation.
2006-08-30 21:07:48 · answer #6 · answered by TC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you came back negative when you seen your doctor then it is something that he has gotten since you seen your doctor. Sorry but that means he has cheated on you with someone. You need to go back to your doctor and tell them what your hubby has and get checked for that as well as EVERYTHING else. And decide what you are going to do about him being unfaithful.
2006-08-30 21:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by lynda0322 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA
I'm so sorry to hear that you must be scared to death...
1st I would cut him off from the sugar shack but im sure you have already.
Get tested also for HPV you may want to look into divorcing him but if i were you i wouldn't have sex with him ever again. I hope you come back negative
Stay safe and stay strong
Signed Tim
2006-08-30 20:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by ssshoebox67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your going to the doctor tomorrow, ask him if he could have had it all these years or if its something he just got. Also ask the other question. I wish you luck. You may need to kick his A**!!!
2006-08-30 20:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's candida he may have contracted it from you but if it's something else. . . sounds a little suspicious especially because it's his anus. If your visit to the doctor shows you are healthy I'd really think twice about staying with this guy. I don't think he is being honest with you.
2006-08-30 20:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by beelziesluv@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋