There is nothing more i hate than childesh people. I know he is young but we both have an adult problem. he, is my 18 year old boyfriend and im a little younger..But im preg... All he is worried about is himself..Which is completly normal but he is to woried about me to..like who i talk to and if i lie to him, which i dont. I keep telling him we will fall apart with out any trust but he just dosent see it like me. Well he is so caught up in me "lieing" to him he wants to break up..and he "found another girl" which i doubt. But i asked well does she know you are going to have a baby,and is she okay with this? and he was like psh it isnt mine and she probally wouldent be. I basically told him that he is no man just a 18 year old boy that is a pathetic exuse for what he thinks is a man. But he cant hide his own baby forever. He cant deny it forever. It is his he was my first and i havent had sex with any other guy. Well I told him would be fine without him becuase i dont need him.
2006-08-30 12:43:15 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Oh and I told him that if he dident belive me then i will get a blood test when the baby is born, but yet, he still refuses. He said "HAHA nobody touches my blood". I can find a new father that will love my baby
2006-08-30 12:45:41 · update #1
Look honey he is scared ok...but that is still no excuse for the way he is treating you. Often times boys will swear it is not their baby just to make you look bad.
also he probably does have another chick. Back when i was your age and pregnant me and my girls rode out on my baby daddy for the same thing, but now that i am older I realize that it was not a smart thing to do.
Listen to me carefully. Stop speaking to him. Do not call him. If he calls you, then tell him when your next doctors appointment is, stuff that has to do with the baby. if he starts trying to argue with you just say goodbye
Ohh and let him know that they dont need to draw his blood, they do it with cheek cells now days.
2006-08-30 14:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by cookies_n_cream0218 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow I hate drama.
Here are some facts I know:
1: boys never grow up...they just get older
2: every baby deserves a great daddy
3: your choices determine if your baby will have a good life or not
I got pregnant when I was 18. The father and I broke up when I was 5 months along. He was arrogant and stubborn with a bad temper. I decided i didn't want him in my life. But after our son was born he really straightened up. It was like a light switch went off in his tiny brain. He is more mature and actually married with another child. I trust him now and our 2 year old sees him every other weekend. Also, when my son was just 10 months old I started dating my current boyfriend. He has been a terrific influence on my son and we all couldn't be happier. So don't think for one minute that this will ruin your life. Find out what you truly want and go for it. Don't just settle for what's there. Congrats and God bless!
2006-08-30 20:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I was in a similar situation, I'm 20 but I got preg. at 17, and hadn't been w/ anyone else but my baby's father, then all off sudden he wants to accuse me of lying and cheating on him, which I wasn't. I think that was just a way to get me to break up with him so he want have any responsibilities. But after my son was born, he whole attitude changed, one because he couldn't deny my son cuz he looked just like him. But if your bf still refuses to take responsibility, get the law involved. As soon as your baby is born get a paterninty test, and make him pay child support, I guarntee he will straighten out.
2006-09-07 16:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by maleka2006 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my first son when I was about your age. Trust me when I say that you do not need this additional stress. Paternity tests are not actual blood tests they only swab the insides of your cheeks. Also if you go to the county paternity/childsupport office they will issue a court order for him to have teh DNA test. I would like to say he will grow up, but you should not have to sit around and wait. I also wouldn't worry about "finding a better father". Just worry about yours and the babies health right now. Good luck. My oldest is 8 years old now and I am in my last year of college and married to an amazing man who loves me and my children. Their dads are still immature and they are 30!
2006-09-05 20:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by priss879 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be suing him for child support, and then they can get a court order to do a paternity test. I am soooo sorry you are in this situation. The reason he can't just grow up is because he was too immature to be doing adult things in the first place. You should never have sex before you are ready to deal with the possible consequences of this. I hope you have lots of support from other people.
PS. I meant a generalized you, not YOU you. You sound far more mature than he is!
2006-08-30 19:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow I was in this same situation. It was extremely painful and I feel awful for you! Break things off with him. You can and will do better even with a kid! I promise! (I met my husband when my son was just 1 and he ended up adopting my son b/c the "father" dropped out of the picture.) You need to take him to court to get child support. He has a responsibilty to that baby and you shouldn't have to do this alone. The court can order a DNA test be done at the hospital when the baby is born. Don't let him off the hook!
2006-08-30 19:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by . 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about trust, because there obviously isn't any! Sounds like he just doesn't want to take responsibility for his child; the old "I want to play, but not pay!" Once your baby is born, take a paternity test, and make him support your child! Don't let him off the hook! If he doesn't want to be a father figure, then I'm sure you'll be able to find someone to fill that role, but make him support his child!
2006-09-03 19:18:14 · answer #7 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firat of all, he's showing all the signs of not being ready for fatherhood without actually coming out and saying it to your face. He has goten you pregnant and moved on fro what i can tell, seems like he wants to start arguements with you to try and find a way out! This is what cowards do. You never know= he may have found another girl thats okay with him having a baby on the way by you- never under estimate a female when it comes to MEN {i your case a immature boy}!
Good luck with your baby
-Dont stress out over him b\c he'll be the one losing out in the end
2006-09-06 01:07:53 · answer #8 · answered by msbrandnew02 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can get child support from him and if he refuses to get a blood test then he can be court ordered to or that can also mean he thinks he is the father. Because if you really think about it who wouldn't want a test tooken if they thought they weren't the father. You deserve so much more. And yes eventually you will find someone that loves you and will take care of you and your baby.
2006-08-30 19:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by mommy@18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
where's your mother, you sound so young and the father is acting just like a kid and yes he is a kid and yes you and him know have an adult problem first of all you never tell a man your not gonna need him to help with the child yes you do . do you have a job or can you even get a job no I'm sure and if so what kind fast food, your parents will have to support your baby so yes you need his help so please grow up and please talk to your mom so she can help he is a kid and he's doing what kids do so maybe you could consider your choice if not your in for a long hard road so please talk to your mom or whoever is in charge so that you and your baby are happy and healthy
2006-09-06 16:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋