She asks other mothers to open items for her at the park, and telling me that she is asking everyone, not always have to be her mother. She even said that in front of other mothers. And she also takes over a mother role over her little brother when I am in charge of him. Am I being overreacted? What did I do wrong?
She needs to know who is in charge. But I didn't want to get angry or mad at her at every time she treats me like that. I need your advice anyone have experience or anyone can know why she does that. That would help me understand her better. Thanks.
2006-08-30 12:36:35 · 16 answers · asked by beautifulswan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sounds like she has some hostility toward you, you need to figure out what the root of her anger is ty asking her why she is angry with you you might get an answer she could be jealous of the other siblings maybe she dont have as much time with you as the other do you let her be the boss ith the younger child sometimes kids take on the role when the parents tell them to things to help out you have to be assertive use an authoritive voice with her like for example with the item she refused to let you open get on her level tell her you dont want her going up to strangers its dangerous, if she still throws a hissy and insists that someone else helps with it take it away from her and better yet take her away from the park tell her why you are taking home because of her behavior because she is clearly doing this for attention, when she gets home discipline her for her action; time out no toys no t.v no games for 10 to 20 minutes continue this till she learns to respect you and follow your rules.
2006-08-30 12:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is only 6, so don't put much into her actions right now. My niece is the same age and acts like she is "it". Sometimes it drives me insane. She is just trying to be a little independent. Allow her some of that independence, but don't let her forget that YOU are her mother. I know it is hard to have a talk with a 6 yr. old, but find a way to communicate. Is she in school yet? That can have alot to do with it. I am not an expert, so I don't know if I'm being of any help at all!
2006-08-30 19:47:07 · answer #2 · answered by lisa s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she is not allowed to ask strangers for help (after all, they are strangers).
Tell her that YOU are her mother, and if she needs something done, she can ask you and of course you will help her.
Otherwise, don't give her what she wants until she can show an acceptable behavior. Let her pout until she gets over her fit, and finally snaps out of it and asks you for help.
She needs to realize that you are a strong woman figure in her life who is in charge and NOT to be run over.
You do not need to get angry at her, just be stern with your judgement. You can always be her friend AND her mother.
I have a 6 year old too.
2006-08-30 20:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by princessforever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have any of her own baby dolls?
Sounds like she is just trying to immitate being you. Get a baby doll and a doll bed with some blankets and a bottle and maybe 2 sets of clothes and tell her that SHE is in charge of that baby while YOU are in charge of her and her brother and that SHE needs to ask YOU to do things for her, not strangers. Its never too late to teach her the dangers of going up to strangers.
Stop being her friend. As she grows up she will have plenty of those, right now she needs a parent and that job has fallen to you. When she is all grown up you will have much more time to be her friend.
good luck.
And the person above me wants to go to jail for child abuse. You never ever slap a child across the face! It doesnt teach them anything except pain.
2006-08-30 19:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she is testin u and looks like she is winning, ur the authority figure so act like it ..if she insist on actin like that at the park then there will be no park time, u need to put her in her place when she does there things, when she miss behaves or does things she shouldnt its ur job to let her know n give out a punishment that fits and even if the punishment doesnt go well keep doing it. take all of the things she loves away from her put her in her room with nothing but a bed, take away tv time and allow her to do nothing until she learns its ur way or no way
2006-08-30 19:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa......If there is anyone who needs parenting classes...it is you!!!! You are unable to establish boundaries, discipline and everything else. You had better get some books, go to classes or something. You need to set the boundaries, instruct her in proper behavior and what the consequences and follow through. This can all be done in a calm way with no yelling. You had better get Help fast....the older she gets, the worse it will be. She is using you as a doormat and is making you a laughing stock!
2006-08-30 19:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start taking charge. It seems that she has switched roles with you. Your too worried about small details. You need to let her know your the mom and she's the kid. It doesn't matter if your around others or not. You had better do it fast, or she'll never stop.
2006-08-30 19:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow
You need to quit lowering yourself to her level if your the mother take action and send her to time out for 5 minutes for each time she acts out against you.
Its clear to me you don't discipline your child your trying to be rational with her and that doesn't work with a 6 yr old
Your daughter is just trying to challenge you (its normal for kids to do this and its natures way of sorting out the pecking in a family unit) and your the adult and shes the kid so tell her to mind or its time out for her and you need to be consistent with the time out
2006-08-30 19:49:50 · answer #8 · answered by ssshoebox67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put her in time out when she dose it at home.And when you go out places I would tell her that she needs to mind you and treat you with recpect.or you wont be taking her to the park anymore.till she can stop treaing you that way.Because she should know better then to treat you like that.If she dose that while you're at the park again.I'd tell were going home and not comeing back till you can treat mommy the right way. good luck
2006-08-30 19:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so most kids go through im in charge of everything phase i nanny a girl that age and shes the same way but you just really need to make sure that she knows that your in charge and if you need to be mean about it so be it but you need to inforce that and tell her that your incharge and if she does stuff that you dont approve of just punish her for it
2006-08-30 19:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋