I have a list of things to do set up for my wife to celebrate her 40th birthday (ex: nice lunch w/ the kids, romantic dinner w/ me, getting nails done, massage, and shopping during the day, etc....). I haven't told her everything specifically yet, but she thinks the way I'm going about the massage is tacky. What do you think? You see, a couple years ago she was interested in going to a medical technical school to become a nurse. One of the programs at this school was for massage therapist. Just before these massage therapist students graduate, the school has small massage therapy business which is open to the public. The cost for a 1 hour full body massage is only $35. I recall when she first learned about this, she thought it sounded like a good idea to enjoy some day. Anyway, she thinks it's tacky and I should take her to a spa. Yes, I agree it would be tacky if that was all I was going to do for her, but along w/ the other things planned, I think it would be nice.
2006-08-30 12:30:38 · 16 answers · asked by wolf1ibm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whose Birthday is it? Is it about the money? Suppose your wife wanted to give you a haircut for your birthday and she arranged it at the local barber college. It's her 40th birthday! Spring for the royal pamper treatment at the classy spa: hottub, sauna, facial, bikini wax, pedicure exfoliation, etc....and a knockout massage. Dude don't skimp, this is an opportunity to show your wife how much you love her. This is the big 4-0. Do not hesitate to overwhelm her. A $35 massage by a student is, well, not exactly tacky, but I would want her to feel special. Could be that your romantic dinner would turn out that much more special for both of you, if you know what I mean.
;>)
2006-08-30 12:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by Skyeman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think she is being a little petty by saying it is tacky. Its not a must for you to do all these thinks for her. Since she thinks its so tacky I would just drop the massage all together. She needs to learn to appreciate things a little more. Go on with the rest of your plans and when she asked why you didn't give her the massage tell her she didn't want the gift you were going to give her so you didn't. Just in case you give in to her whining you can usually get a half hour massage at about that price at a regular spa. Good Luck
2006-08-30 14:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by smile4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A massage is a massage. It's not like you are asking the kid down the street to do it! It is still a massage therapist. If she has to have the spa, give it to her; just don't give her the other gifts. If my husband went through all the trouble of planning something special I wouldn't care if it wasn't the spa. What happened to it's the thought that counts??
2006-09-03 06:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by fin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a great idea! She doesn't know about all the other things you have planned so she's probably thinking this is all you're going to do. She would be surprised. I say, stick to the plan and throw in the spa if you want to. She will appreciate all the effort you put into it.
2006-08-30 12:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just spend the additional $30 for a real massage therapist. You won't even feel the $30 when you realize how grateful she is. Cut back on the other things then. . . just order water during dinner or something.
2006-08-30 12:36:54 · answer #5 · answered by Wondering myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it is tacky...I am sorry she feels that way...I would LOVE to have a massage...I don't care who was giving it too me....whoops did I say that?
I think you are a wonderful thoughtful husband
2006-08-30 12:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Daggone, she sounds a little greedy!!! I would be happy with just the massage ....from anyplace.
She needs to be a little more appreciative, and a heck of alot less spoiled.
You have my sympathy!!!
2006-08-30 12:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by ricksliss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she thinks it's tacky - this is your answer; either do it "right", or don't do it at all. No, really... Just do it. Scale back on some of the other plans.
2006-08-30 12:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she wants the spa send her to the spa for the day and that is it. Otherwise follow your plan and do it your way.
2006-08-30 12:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by wilierthanu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has given you feedback on what she would like then listen to her. In any case you are covered and she can't be mad at you. I think you would get brownie points for listening and remembering something she said. Good luck!
2006-08-30 12:43:29 · answer #10 · answered by navithebluestorm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋