We've been together 2 years, but they drive me nuts! They lie cheat steal have no respect for anyone else or their property. When it's just me & him, everything is great. But, when they are at our house they are nasty, disrespectful, ***** & whine constantly. Of course, since they don't live with us he gives in to them because they make him feel guilty. He pays 1500 per month child support & the mom doesn't work, & that doesn't include health ins,etc. They constantly ask for clothes, i pods etc. My kids are 20 & 24 & have never given me any trouble. They were 4.0 students, worked, never got into any trouble, always went to church. I don't know how to deal with these heathens! They have stolen from me & lie when confronted & I have proof positive!!! It drives me to drink!!! But he & I are perfect in every other way. What should I do? They play him because he lived 1400 miles away until 2 yrs ago, when he moved less than 5 miles from them. prior to that he saw them a couple times a yr
2006-08-30 12:29:06 · 7 answers · asked by Lorrie A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As I read your question I could only think about that old saying about the apple not falling far from the tree. What does it say about a father that raised such children. Maybe there are things about him you still haven't learned. I'd be careful and not let love cloud your judgment. Good luck!
2006-08-30 12:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by beelziesluv@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything sounds perfect, nothing ever is. The kids present the greatest problem. So much trouble they are they overshadow every potential problem. Dealing with s hit kids when you are not prepared with prior exposer to the heathens, because your own childeren were great, means you have to start at the begining of child discipline. This is a huge job. A job that you may not want to be involved in. The broken family situation definetley is a major factor in this trouble situation. You both need to kick *** on the kids as a cohesive unit. backin each other up. That is what all parents must do to try and help the scheming kids. If they dont get the same word from both of the homes then you will never reach your goals. So if you want to keep this guy you will have to sacrafice your self and become a hardnose step parent (that makes it hard, depending on the kids attitudes), being a step means you may never be sucsessfull, and it takes more effort (heartless). He cant be that good. Its up to you. But try and make sure that you are not stuck in a situation that has you lying to your self to survive. It is up to you to maintain yourself. Do not compromise your happiness, not for any amount of time. Stand up and shout, tell them how you want things to be. Stand tall and be heard.
2006-08-30 13:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by M2J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Lordie, hon, do you have problems. Now that they are so close, and he seems helpless with them, there is only so much you can do.
You can stay with him, and try to survive at least the next five years, until the youngest is over eighteen. But will they grow up and change into decent human beings, and responsible.
I doubt it. that rarely happens.
So unless your boyfriend shapes up, and works on those kids of his, your life will be a living hell.
You could move away, and distance yourself from them, but they will always be his kids, and if he does nothing, nothing will change.
So you have to decide, if you can live with the situation, or not.
Sometimes, we have no control over certain situations, and all you can do, is cut and run.
If you stay, you will be in for what you are getting now, for about ten years, at least.
That doesn't look like a good situation to be in.
2006-08-30 12:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to have a talk to you boyfriend if that doesn't work try to give the kids attention it sounds like those kids have had it tough if there divorce moms doesn't work give them attention and maybe they will com down love them like own kids i know my parents are divorce my dad got a girlfriend and i got scared they were going to get married so winned and fused she gave me attention and it work i am now happy with my life
2006-08-30 12:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should talk to your husband, and explain how u feel,if that dont work walk to the kids mom,if that dont work press charges on them,and dont give in make it stick,what ever u do,and dont give in,i wont.
2006-08-30 12:43:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your man how you feel and sit and have a talk with there mom.
2006-08-30 12:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by Unknown_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what to tell you, I'm sorry and good luck
2006-08-30 12:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋