I am married and am very much in love with my husband. He has a vasectomy and said he would get it reversed, but I have yet to see it happen and don't believe he will. I want another child really bad and don't know if I should give up being with my husband to find someone I can love and have a child with or just give up on having another child and stay with my husband. I don't want to resent him later; I don't want to resent myself either! I feel stuck!!
2006-08-30 12:27:04 · 11 answers · asked by adm2576 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have one child, my husband has 2. He says he wants another one and doesn't want another one.... all in the same breath!
2006-08-30 12:42:00 · update #1
You don't say how many children you have and it is sort -of important. If you have 2 or 3 children already he may feel that you have enough children. Another thing any man is nervous when you get a scalpel in that very sensitive area and he has done this once already he might be a little bet scared to do that again. Try to talk to him again and see if you can find out why he doesn't seem to want the reversal. If you love him you shouldn't think about leaving him over this. Your children need their Dad and there are no guarantees that you will find someone to love as much as you love him. One more thing there is also no guarantee that even if he had the reversal that you would become pregnant.
2006-08-30 12:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was the vasectomy a mutual decision between the both of you or you weren't with him at the time?? whatever the case i believe the vows said through thick and thin. Discuss how you feel with him. he may not want children or any more children and don't force it. Good luck & God bless.
2006-08-30 12:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by LILMAMA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an appointment for him and drive him to the doctor. When my husband had the vasectomy, I made the appt and drove him there. I wish I had waited a few more years. Good luck.
2006-08-30 12:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any decisions you must take it combined. Why do need another child? are you desperate?
Grow the two children in a godly manner . that is enough. do not put your husband in embarrassing situation.
2006-08-30 18:06:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just follow what your hearth desires. You can adopt a kid, by the way is a great thing, you will feed one more inocent child in this world.
2006-08-30 12:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by Trilochan Kaur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what u feel like but dont u think 3 children r enough for a family.
2006-08-30 17:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by pam c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uf cors love its so sweet fascinating ,to live with your husband its so nice and anyway you just keep on living with him nicely then soon
some day you will ask her CAN WE GET A BABY NOW. he will say of course then you will sex get the baby and keep on living with him happily.
2006-08-30 12:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let him try the operation first. Is adoption an alternative ?
Good luck !
2006-08-30 12:47:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make love with any of your BF and say that it was an accident
2006-08-30 17:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by Bharadwaj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up on the baby. If you love him don't mess it up.
2006-08-30 12:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋