I married someone who I thought would grow with me thru the years, but I made one mistake. I jumped into the relationship head first without checking up on this mans background. He told me he had no children, was single and was about to move into a really nice apartment when we first met. About 10 days after we met, he told me he was going out to take care of some business, kissed me and said he would be back soon. So I called one of his family members and they said, he is with his child and her mother they are having a big celebration for their birthdays over her house. And I was like, what do you mean, he said he dont have any kids, she said I dont know why he would tell you that cause he is with her right now. I was so hurt, when he came back he had a woman waiting for him in a car, and immediately said, I dont wanna be here no more, I am leaving you. I told him not to leave so he told the other woman to go home. Why i had the nerve to marry this guy and expect him to change
2006-08-30 12:18:09 · 19 answers · asked by odaat_1218 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What an asshole...I am so sorry for the way u have been done.Just leave and never look back hun.U desevre so much better.There r so many more fish in the sea baby.Good luck
2006-08-30 12:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to take revenge? That will get you locked up, and he's not worth going to jail for. If you will just move on God will deal with him in a worse way then you could. You can not change anyone. It is what it is. DO NOT believe him if he says he is sorry for cheating. Once you forgive a man for cheating, and he thinks you are hooked, he WILL do it again. You have a great case for adultry charges, and alimony. Now that's a positive way to get revenge. Call your attorney tomorrow. Don't delay. See if he's listed on www.dontdatehimgirl.com. Don't list him if he's not before you get the divorce he'll use it against you.
2006-08-30 19:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by Credit Expert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You knew him for how long before you married?
Sounds like you met and married a man within 10 days. Revenge for what? You apparently didnt know him at all...cant blame him for your major mistake. Get an annullment or work it out.
2006-08-30 19:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately we all make mistakes and there are many women out there who wished they hadnt listened to some guy. Revenge in this case would not serve any real purpose. Sue him for divorce and everything that legally you are entitled to. Let him realize what he lost. You need to get out of this and move on to where you can be happy again. Good luck
2006-08-30 19:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made a similar mistake in my life the best revenge u can get is reclaim itself and get rid of his lying cheating ***. In the long run he will be kicking himself in the *** for the things he has done and u will be happy again and have everything u ever wanted in a man . leave this BOY to grow up on his own . it took me 14 years to figUre it out don't waste ur life .
2006-08-30 20:01:38 · answer #5 · answered by ~~*Brownie*~~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right......revenge will get you nothing you won't feel better after you do it.....infact you will feel worse because you have now graduated to his level......just remember.......this the happy times........and see if you can't work this out now from what its sounds like is that this marriage was flushed down the toilet.....but go to counseling or something.....and if that doesn't work then divorce him although he lied and stuff you didn't marry him because of lack of love.....you just rushed into something.....but don't just rush out of it too........maybe that will be your second mistake.........good luck........:) if you need to talk e-mail me through yahoo answers.
2006-08-30 19:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by Pisce-Pegasus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the one mistake we make is thinking we can change people.A person won't change unless he/she wants to change.As for your husband let him go if he lied about not have a child he's lied about everything else.Move on and make you happy.Don't worry about pay back he will get what he deserves.Believe me GOD will do far worst to him then you ever could.Sorry that you had to go through that.
2006-08-30 19:33:44 · answer #7 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow girl don't look for revenge i don't know your beliefs but put this one in whoever you worship see you have to believe in karma what goes around comes around he will have his day it may not be today tomorrow but trust and believe he will have his day no good will come to him how disrespectful of him to say he didn't have a kid and ignoring his kid move on with your life he doesnt want to be with you so be it you can do better take sometime to get your mind right and focus on you forget him
2006-08-30 19:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready to leave - Don't waste any more of your precious energy on him Girl!!!
Focus your energy on YOU!
Get up .... Shake it off...... Get your chin up..... and get out there and show the world what you are really made of - look at it as a new beginning...... lesson learned......There's a whole new chapter of life waitin for you =)
2006-08-30 19:41:16 · answer #9 · answered by *TheShryocks* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good point- why did you? I don't have the answer for you, you will have to do some soul searching yourself. Revenge won't help you to understand your own choices better.
2006-08-30 19:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋