I'm scared..?

Question

of anal!! I have read all previous questions and this may sound a little silly but, I need to know...
is an enema really necessary beforehand or can I do something else? does it hurt when he goes into you??
what is the risk of disease?
and how much do condoms cost usually?
I'm not trying to sound bigoted or cram lots of questions into one but...that's how it will come out. I am concerned about the risk and the pain and I don't know if I ever would do anal.as I once said, it would take a lot of love, reassurance, and a fast talker to make me even consider it. I am worried that it is unsanitary, or painful, or spreads AIDS. any advice?

Answer 1

i do suggest that you have an enema, it will clean ou out before he tries to do you, and the risk of disease is very high always use protection unless you were there when they were tested and you know 100% that they are clean and the price of condoms are different in all places so you would actually have to go see, it is painful if it isnt done correctly, you need to the sufficently spread yourself nice and wide so you can take it! i love it! it isnt unsanitary if you clean yourself out...so do and enema and take colon cleansers

Answer 2

ComputerBuddy's answer is the best of the bunch.
I love receiving anal, but the first time it was done to me it hurt.
Contrary to what is stated here the anus and rectum do not tear easily, in fact they stretch very easily. Only if sharp objects (finger nails!) are inserted will it tear.
Apart from cleaning yourself out with an enema, your best friend is lubricant. My favourite is silicon-based oil designed for sex. You can find it on-line or in any erotic store.
Before you actually have anal sex with a real person try fingering your own butthole with a little lube on your finger.
You can then try inserting slightly larger objects.
During insertion do not cramp, just push against the incoming object as if you were taking a dump, this will automatically make penetration easier.
Finally, a bottle of poppers will make your life easier. There are lots of makes, on the most famous is Rush. Just a quick snort and your butt will relax to take even enough to take even a big object. Just don't spill the stuff on your hands. It burns.

Answer 3

No you do not need to use an enema, the risk of urinary track infection is high, you can get condoms for a couple of dollars at a planned parenthood, and you should def only be with someone you love and trust if you ever try anal. It is a personal choice and you should only have anal if you are completely sure and comfortable with the person.

Answer 4

Your anus is a one-way passage. Men, especially inexperienced young men, will try to talk a woman into doing it that way especially if she is young and unaware.

Anal intercourse can cause a tear in your anus which is extremely hard to heal. It can also cause hemmoroids which are varicose veins of the anus. Some are internal and some are outside of the anus. Imagine having veins hanging out of your butt. Nice, huh?

Inside is what is called your rectum. This is a very sensitive, very thin skinned tube like area. It tears easily and if it does, it will not heal itself. The pain would be more horrible than you can imagine and you would require emergency surgery. Because the rectum lining is very thin but loaded with veins, anal intercourse makes you more suseptable to sexually transmitted diseases. If anything from inside your rectum comes in contact with your vagina or ureathra you will end up with an infection which again, you have to see a doctor to have treated.

Finally, if you have anal intercourse often enough, the ring of muscle that holds your anus shut stretches so that you can no longer hold your feces inside and will have to wear a diaper.

Now, a man will have an orgasm with anal sex with a female, but unless a woman is stimulated she will not so you won't even have that pleasure for all the risks you are taking just to please him.

Think very long and hard before you do such a thing. A man who asks and is told no will accept your decision. A jerk who is only out for themselves will whine about it. Those are the ones you need to kick to the curb and move on.

Answer 5

It won't spread AIDS any more than anything else you can do. Use a condom. And water-based lube, nothing oil-based like Vaseline. (KY Jelly or Astroglide are both readily available.) Oil-based lubes kill a condom's effectiveness.

You don't have to do anything you don't want to do, or before you want to do it.

I know I'm a girl, but I've found out some of this stuff from gay and bi male friends and HIV/AIDS education work. This link will give you some more help.

Answer 6

I can say this if it was me it would have to be with someone I trust 110% and I would tell them don't be silly cover the willie. The reason I would have to trust this person so much is you want to make sure if you say stop there will be no problem..

Answer 7

All of those. So, why bother? No matter how much you love a man, you should never be forced to do something that you don't like.

Why do anal when there is oral which is wonderful. As a man, I've never liked it much, too many teeth too close, but I can tell you most women love it!

Answer 8

1)Enemas are nice- they keep the smell of poo down, and make more room for object or penis insertion

2)Yes, it will hurt- take your time, use lots of lube and its still gonna hurt

3)The risk of diease is high- you're talking direct dieased semon into blood stream high from anal tears in the rectom wall

4)Condoms are cheap compaired to death at any price

You asked for advice, so here it is: Don't do it- your as.s wasn't designed for it. Second, is this something spirtual you really want to do? I strongly encourage counseling ok?

Answer 9

Go to Mexico , eat lots of fresh fruits, vegetables and drink lots of water. This will not help with anal sex , but it will teach you what your butt hole is for.

Answer 10

Ram a banana up there if your worried about diseases your a fruit cake anyway.