I'm the mother of 3 boys (ages 14, 12, 6) and am pregnant with my 4th. I plan on giving birth to many more children.
I am due to give birth in about 9 weeks. My husband is scheduled to be in St. Louis for that time - and he MUST go, it is really crucial to his job. My middle son (12 yr old) is the most mature out of all 3 of my children - and he really wants to be there for me when his sibling is born. I think it is a great idea but i just want to have your advice on it before we go through with it. Please give me your opinion on this!
2006-08-30 11:59:27 · 13 answers · asked by ilina 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think that if he wants to be in there, and he can handle it, then I say yes. About time a guy actually wants to see this beautiful experience. You sound like you have a very respectful nice young man on your hands. Just because he is in there doesn't mean he has to have his head down there the whole time(for anyone who posts negative nasty things about it). You just need his support, and it would be a great experience for him. Congrats, by the way!!!
2006-08-30 12:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even being more mature than your oldest, a 12 year old is still a child. It's great that he wants to be there for you--but I'm not so sure he's knows what he's in for. This might sound sick (excuse me if it does) but maybe you should show him a video of an actual birth so he knows what to expect. He might be mature, but even men more mature then him don't make it through labor sometimes. If he is there for the birth, just make sure to tell him that it's okay if he needs to leave the room if he gets anxious. Anyway, good luck and congrats on number 4!
2006-08-30 19:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What.....are you crazy. you want to let your 12 year son watch you have a baby, because your husband will be out of town. not a very good idea. how about asking your mother. there has to be someone else you could ask for help. i repeat don't let your son be there with you. he will be asking to many question later on. look at it this way, when he goes back to school everybody in that school will know he watch you have a baby. look at it that way. It's your decision good luck with it, and i hope your baby is healthy when he/she is born
2006-08-30 19:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by Nicko912 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be wonderful to have him there, but not as a support person. Can you hire a doula?
It is also important that he realise what will happen as you give birth, and that you will be making loud noises etc but that you are going to be okay. A birth video or two would be a great way to introduce him to birth.
2006-08-30 19:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by sheila 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is a great idea, just let the doctors know before hand and arrange for him to have a chair or something maybe by your head and let him know that he needs to make sure he doesn't get in the way of the doctors.
2006-08-30 19:08:08 · answer #5 · answered by Marketia 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is still a child..you might want to give him as much information as possible as to what he might see...my hubby is 30, and what he saw freaked him out. If he has to leave the room, then you will be worried about what is happening to him with no one watching him. I would say NO...get a friend , mother, or sister to be with you
2006-08-30 19:12:54 · answer #6 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be a wonderful Idea . They will have a real close bond. My sister in law had her daughter go in when her nephew was born. She was 13 yrs old & her cousin was 18 {one who had the baby} Chrissy is real close with her nephew.
Good luck.
2006-08-30 19:06:43 · answer #7 · answered by angelluvswolf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes! I would let him!
If he wants to the I would allow him to be there. Make sure to prepare him by talking to him about birth and letting him see some birth videos first.
It is best if there is someone who can be there WITH him (family friend, aunt, neighbor, doula, etc.) so that if he decides he wants to step out of the room they could go with him OR so that they can explain things to him if needed.
2006-08-30 19:03:03 · answer #8 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
im going to let my 12 yr old in there with me but i am making stay up by my head that way he wont see me down there but as soon as she is born he can see her
2006-08-30 19:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by brandiknight2003 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's totally up for to you. I guess it okay. Too bad that your husband can not be there.
2006-08-30 19:03:26 · answer #10 · answered by sweenygirll 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋