i really do care about both but i dont no what to do
2006-08-30 11:51:52 · 25 answers · asked by totalcute24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you are all over the place. grow up and find an appropriate relationship.
2006-08-30 11:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by richard457 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know plenty of couples where he is older than she is, and I also know a few couples where she is much older than he is. So that does not have to be a problem. However, if you feel that you still want your ex, then you have to look honestly and closely on why you are dating the older guy---because if you were totally in love with him, I don't think that you would even think about your ex. Could it be, that the older guy provides better, but the ex was more fun to be with? I would say look at those issues and then try to make an honest decision, because how are things supposed to work out with the new guy if you still want your ex-boyfriend back. We have a tendency to compare the new one to the old one which I find so unfair---so are you doing that? There could be a lot you compare and then things fall into favor of your ex.
Also, you need to ask yourself if you started dating this new guy to avoid being alone or if you started to date him because you actually do like him. Again, this requires an honest answer to give to yourself and then you can make a decision on what you really want and if this is the true thing or not.
It is pretty normal that we miss a person we have been with for a long time---but life goes on and we need to move on. Did you really move on or do you just think you moved on? All this will really show you why you think you still want your ex-boyfriend, and hopefully that will enable you to move on with your new man and forget about the old one...Good Luck
2006-08-30 12:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when you're dating someone that much older, you have to wonder about his interest. Is it really in you as a person, or are you a trophy of sorts. Don't mean to put you down as a person, really. Midlife crisis looms around the 40 years mark.
I would be cautious about him - he might move on to "the next one" soon. Look at how much you two really have in common. If there is much, that says good things about the relationship. If not, and it's all about the sex - not good.
As for the ex boyfriend - the reason he is ex is what? Was there a good reason, or was it because the other guy came along, looking good, all mature with assets that the younger guy hasn't lived long enough to accumulate.
I guess I can't really tell you what to do - all I can do is put some questions in front of you to help you choose.
Good luck - and remember - NEVER settle. Hold out for the best!
2006-08-30 12:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like Fallen Angle's answer. There is a reason your ex is an ex. In my expirence, after a breakup, you need almost two years to be freinds or even think of getting back together . . . Don't do it because your lonely, still feeling something for him, or are desperte. See if after time and growth you can still click without an emotional attachment.
If you still feel something for your ex, well then your current guy isn't the one, because if he was, you wouldn't be giving your ex a scond thought.
Wait for love, don't settle.
2006-08-30 11:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by jhs80123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. If you want somebody else, you don't really want him. And at 40, he's probably looking for something serious. Don't string him along.
2. If he's your ex, he's your ex for a reason. Move on.
You probably walk by 300 men a day. Each one of them is a unique person with his own thing to offer. If you're pining away for two guys you don't really want anyway, you may just miss your chance to find someone you can really love, who really loves you.
Keep looking.
2006-08-30 12:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love with a father figure because you probably are missing your dad due to divorce or death. The only thing is that he is not a replacement for daddy and has no intentions of being daddy to you. His only thing in his mind is SEX and probably to take advantage of you. I suggest that you grow up a little, stay with your boyfriend and enjoy life little by little. You have a long way ahead of you and the experience you get along the way will allow you to pick a right mate for you.
2006-08-30 12:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by Sylvia P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love your older man,and you want your ex too.And you care about both.You could have both,but would be better,if you stay with the man you really love.Think what is love and what is only sex.Good luck.
2006-08-30 11:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you are in love with the older guy so love the one you with. Remember you ex is your ex for a reason. Think about it.
2006-08-30 11:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your not ready for a relationship. Either your with the older man for money.. And want the young one for some booty.. You can't have a cake and eat it to ya know! Your 24 worry about getting the life together. And not worry about who you want.!
2006-08-30 12:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by samantha_rose0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first ask yourself which one is more important to you? and then ask why do u like the older man and what happened between you and your ex.? then after you answer those questions you will know which one.
2006-08-30 11:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only truly love 1 of them. If you are ready to settle down and have kids, go with the 40 yr old. He may already be financially settled so you don't have to struggle.
2006-08-30 11:54:52 · answer #11 · answered by SEXY 818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋