I've been "friends" with this guy for two years, just to be nice, and really never liked him that much. Then he started being REALLY clingy and liking me. Now I can't stand him! I never knew this would turn out to be such a mistake!
I tried to push him away nicely. I tried avoiding him. That wasn't working- so I told him I never liked him as a friend as much as he did, I told him I would never date him, and nothing worked. He didn't get it that I don't wanna be close friends. Finally, from complete stress and annoyance, I told him not to contact me anymore.
School's starting soon and I'll see him after not talking at all for three months. I'm really scared he still didn't get it and will try to talk to me to "make up."
I don't mind being friends if he doesn't try to be my best friend or boyfriend, but he doesn't seem to understand boundaries and I'm afraid to even try! I don't want to talk to him at all, but I feel like a jerk cuz I was nice to him for two years.
Advice?
2006-08-30 11:37:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
in case you all didn't notice, I HAVE talked to him MANY TIMES and it never works!
2006-08-30 12:04:35 · update #1
If you have had no contact for several months, it is more than likely that he had got the hint. Just go to school and be polite, but firmly letting him know with your body language that the friendship is over.
2006-08-30 11:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all i have to say is that be very, strictly serious with him, but not to the point where you really like putting him down. If he wants to be your boyfriend find someone else for him, and then tell him that you have a boyfriend and that you would like to be friends not the next level. You feel me?
2006-08-30 11:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being nice is one thing, but if you lead a person on that your were friends, which you either are or you are not. being a friendly person can sometimes rebound on you as others take it as more. being friends with all kinds of people will eventually wind up more in time. there are two types. people you associate with and those that are friends you hang out with.
2006-08-30 11:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by hollywood71@verizon.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the truth. Tell him that you don't mind be friends, but that you don't need a boyfriend or best friend. Tell him that you can be friends, but if he oversteps boundaries you are done. Since he doesn't understand what boundaries are you need to explain them to him, so that he understands them.
2006-08-30 11:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nicely explain that the friendship has ran it's course and that you are not mad at him, but simply have a new group of friends.
If he continues to "cling" to you at school, go to one of the male coaches and ask them if they could have a word with him about it. This should end all the unpleasantries of trying to avoid him at school and etc.
2006-08-30 11:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i'd choose to point one element you care approximately your chum suited? If shes no longer listening to you please stay out of this. you recognize in case you ll intrude then you definately will finally end up dropping her friendship. Coz once you're in love( authentic or pretend) the only individual looks ryt to u is the only you're in love with. i'm giving u dis suggestion coz i misplaced my chum coz i attempted to shop her from a goth guy. And now they the two are jointly and that guy in basic terms hates me and made my frnd hate me too. i'm unhappy yet i cant help it. As a frnd i'm able to in basic terms choose good for her! its extra advantageous you do the comparable.
2016-12-17 19:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know all u have to do is tell him that u dont wanna be that close to him and then if he bothers u keep telling him
2006-08-30 11:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by BB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u finially realize that u love that person
2006-08-30 11:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by Princess D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you got herpes.And that you are a lesbo.
2006-08-30 11:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by super stud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you say restraining order/stalker
2006-08-30 11:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋