i'm never going to get pregnant :(?

Question

I have determined I am never going to get pregnant. I still havn't had my period.. two days late.. but blood test came back negative. I have been trying for over a year and a half with my husband. It just not going to happen.. I am so depressed right now. my doctor doesn't want to send me to a fertility doctor and won't run tests on me... Has anyone ever had that feeling like it is never going to happen? that the world is against u and your husband. I've tried "not thinking about it" for six months... using ovulation predictor kits, checking my cervical mucus..... its just never going to happen... I don't think i can live without a child of my own :( I have no friends to talk to about this.. no one understands my pain and how i'm feeling... i am so disgusted with myself. Women are supposed to have children....

Answer 1

actually i was in the same situation as you... me and my hubby tried for 6 yrs to have a child... i would cry every night till i would just make my self sick.. i was jealous over other mothers with kids.. i finally made up my mind i would never have any children of my own... but when quit my job in nov of 2001 i got pg the following march... i guess i was so stressed out over my job it prevented me from getting pg.. now 3 and a half yrs later im looking at the same situation so it seems.. we have been trying for about a yr now.. and nothing... but dont give up... i know you have heard this over and over cause i did... it will happen when you least expect it... and believe it does.. :) email me if you want to talk and just need some one to open up to.... since i have been there... hope this encourages, helps you.

Answer 2

I am sorry to hear about your troubles. Have you tries another doctor? I would start there. Also, Have you thought about adoption, surrogacy or donated eggs? You still have a lot of option since you don;t know exactally what the problem is. It could be you or your husband. You've got to find out what the problem is and know your options or just skip right to some other choices. I myself have been considering egg donation and maybe surrogacy because I feel a need to try and give back to a special couple with fertility problem, god just hasn;t put then in my life yet. Good luck and God Bless. If you owuld like to talk some more [e-mail]

Answer 3

I know how you feel it took me and my husband over a 1 1/2 years to get pregnant, every month my period would be late and I'd take a test and be disappointed. Thankfully it finally happened after my friend suggested I take Geritol vitamins (yes the vitamins for older people) apparently it has a lot of vitamins that help the body and some studies say its why a lot of older women have become pregnant after 6 months of taking the pill daily, we finally found out I was pregnant. I'm due on Oct 3. I don't know if the pills worked but I had nothing to loose. Best of luck

Answer 4

I know how you feel... My issue was the other way around- which personally I think is harder- meaning that I kept on conceiving but kept on miscarrying. Just take your mind off of it... I had my last miscarriage in May of 2004 and then I did not get pregnant until July of 2005, and now by the Grace of God I have a beautiful baby girl. But you have to not stress about it, and I know that is the hardest thing to do because you think that there is something wrong with you, but trust me- there is not... If you really think that you should go to the fertility clinic talk to your regular doctor about it and see if he can refer you if you OBGYN won't. I think I am in the right here by your name so- Cuidase mucho y Dios la bendiga. Oracion puede ayudar. Y buena suerte.

Answer 5

I'm sorry that you are so upset. I feel your pain. Just for your information, your doctor is a jerk. If there have been problems with you getting pregnant for over a year, you should be getting multiple tests done--both you and your spouse. Please switch doctors--for your own sake. He's not doing what he's supposed to. Get another opinion. Find out what's wrong. Don't get defeated, fight back. I wish you the best in this situation. Good luck, and no matter what, keep smiling.

Answer 6

go to a fertility clinic on your own, or try homeopathic medicines. I knew a couple that tried for years and years so they ended up going to mexico and talking to a doctor out there. They found out that the wifes body was combating the sperm so the doctor injected the wife with the husbands white blood cells to trick her body into accepting the sperm and she got pregnant with twins!! I hope I helped a little. Try researching more on the internet. If you doctor wont run tests on you, you should find another doctor.

Answer 7

I'm so sorry you're going through that. I've never experienced that. But Ive had friends who have. In both cases they just had to be patient and wait. One got pregnant just after they went to see a fertility specialist but before any treatment. And the other....well a surprise baby about 3 years later. I'll cross my fingers that something like that will happen for you. Just remember everything happens for a reason, and try not to beat yourself up over it. Easier said than done I know...but...I'm hoping for you.

Answer 8

I know it's hard but keep trying...if you have a doctor that won't listen to your concerns get another doc! It took me 1 year to get pregnant w/ my first and 3 years to get pregnant with the second.
I knew that I wanted kids and I understand what you are going through. My first OB was not a big help, my second was a god-send...she's great!

Don't get down on yourself, try to stay positive even though it's hard. Motherhood is wonderful whether the child is biologically yours or not. If it turns out you are unable to have any of your own, please be open minded to adoption...so many children need parents...and beleive it or not you will love them because they are yours!

Blessed Be

Answer 9

i know exactly how you feel b/c i feel depress and cheated not being able to conceive it has stopped my life and that's all i think of,, but i then think no i can't give up,, need to have hope that someday i will get blessed you need to go to the doctor i made the mistake to not go early in my marriage but that's then,,,,,, now i am going a infertility specialist i have been trying for "12yrs" so imagine how i feel don't feel bad just go,,,, don't wait don't understand why doctor tells you that,,,,,,,,,,,yes I have that feeling you say no understands the pain only the women that are going through it all my family say oh we understand i know they mean well,,, but no they don't they have kids ,,,,,,,,,,,,no they don't ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,good luck i hope you get blessed to have a child of your own if not adopt i will probably do that in the future????

Answer 10

honey, im going through the same thing. What you need to do is find another doctor. if you have been ttc for over a year and nothing happens then you need to see a specialist. i know exactly how you feel. Its hard but you'll get through it. your first step should be to see a specialist and then work your way from there. GOOD LUCK!