I've known all my life that my mother didn't like me basically because I was born but I never thought she would go to the extent to telling my 3 young kids that (all 3 under the age of 11). Now, I refuse to let my kids around her. This is a woman that has given birth to 5 children and only has 1 left that will even talk to her. She has no remorse whatsoever on throwing away her own 4 children. She tells me to get over it and to stay out of her life. Now she wants to take me to court for grandparents rights, how well do you think that would go over with the judge? Would it be stupid of me to let my kids around her knowing that there could be a chance that the same thing could happen to them? Your opinions would be greatly appreciated.
2006-08-30 11:11:24 · 7 answers · asked by Jennifer S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OMG. I would say follow your heart. And I hope that you teach your children otherwise and also show them that you do love them. A mother telling her children that she hates them is the worst. Turthfully if I was in your shoes, I would not let my children around her. My mom's sister is similar to your mom. She had a one night stand of which she got pregnant with my cousin, and all of my cousin's life she suffered so much, My mom took my cousin in, I love her like a sister and she is older than I am. My cousin has two boys now and her mother treats those two boys the way that she never treated my cousin. And I know that my cousin feels really bad because of this. YEt my cousin does not deny her mother seeing the kids, I mean because she doesnt phisically hurt them or anything.
But this is a tough one. Have you ever tried to reconcile with your mother? And even if you did it seems that it wouldnt work, from the way that you describe it. I am sorry to hear about this and in my opinion I wouldnt let her see them and I would make it known to the court that you dont want to place your children in danger (child endangerment) PLus the court will usually not award her any rights as she is not a parent, it would be different if you were fighting against the children's father, but grandma I highly doubt that they would even listen to her, Unless she proves that you are an unfit mother. Talk to a lawyer, usually family lawyers provide free legal advice. Good luck!!!! Keep me posted
2006-08-30 11:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by gm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the judge the truth and try to not be emotional (you dont want to accidentally yell at the judge). However legally grandparents have the right to see their grand kids once per month, so she may still get to see them. Try moving away from her and not telling her your address. If you dont want her to visit the kids try to fight it in court but be prepared to have to let her see them once and a while. bring the other 3 kids of hers that dont want to talk to her anymore to testify for you that she should not visit your kids.
2006-08-30 18:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll tell you honestly and truthfully what i feel: i believe in family and support family values. but if she has x amount of kids and only one is dealing with her, that tells you something. in my opionion also, she has no respect to bring adult issues in the ears of innocent children. you are their mother and they have to respect you cause you take care of them. let her go to court and make a fool of herself. i hope you well and sorry things are so rough. Pray for your mother and your self. having a bad mother (i'm assuming from your question not judging cause i don't know her) is hard enough and you will have to fight not to let it reflect on the relationship of your kids. Good Luck and God bless.
2006-08-30 18:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know the whole story between you and your mother..But she has a right to visit with her grand children..You need peace in your family..so I suggest it starts with you..Let her visit with the children with supervision if you feel better with her visitation.
2006-08-30 18:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by CenTexan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let my kids around her. She's your mother but, she's a bi**h. If you let your kids around her, most likely she'll be washing their brains with bad things about you .....so she doesn't have a chance with the judge n-e ways
2006-08-30 18:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fight it with all you have. You know how your mom is, don't let your children around her. She shouldn't be able to win.
2006-08-30 18:15:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing healthy will come out of your mother getting near your sons, do what is best for your kids.
2006-08-30 18:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by pay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋