I, (Bride/Groom), take you (Groom/Bride), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.
If they cheated on you or did something bad wouldn't that fall under for worse?
what about the death do us part? Would you stay with them FOREVER no matter how bad things got?
Makes you think about your vows don't it?
2006-08-30 11:06:32 · 26 answers · asked by Tina 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
i take my vow very serious
but the other person has to also.
2006-08-30 11:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by dolphinchk64 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I take them very seriously, although I don't believe they are absolutes. They are a set of guidelines to strive to continue to meet. Unfortunately, people change over time and life evolves.
I am once divorced, and happily remarried . So far the second time around has been much better and easier, but then again I was older, wiser, and more experienced the second time, so this stands to reason. And no, I would not stay forever no matter how bad things got. I didn't the last time. Sometimes you have to please yourself, and I'm not a big fan of societal boundaries carried over from Puritanism, like the outmoded marriage vows we still use. We no longer get married, have kids, then die at 50. The world has changed, and it's not so simple and puritanical any more, but a lot of things have remained as they were since the middle ages, such as the basic wedding vow.
Anyway, that's my opinion.
2006-08-30 20:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by Toyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married over 12 years.
I am proud of you that you asked this question.
Marriage is work and not easy if it were there would be no such thing as divorce.
Sometimes you will have bad times the Bible promises us that in John 16:33.
Marriage is not a feeling it is a commitment.
A Marriage is only as strong as the foundation you build it on.
Yes I take my vows very serious and so does my husband because we are accountable to God if we just give up and quit See Ruth 1:16,17 this is the verse I had read at our marriage.
You right it does make you think, as marriage partners you are obligated by the Lord to make it work, it is not all fun,games and sex marriage takes a lot of HARD work and perseverance.
Marriage is a lot like interest at a bank you only get out of it what you put into it.
2006-08-30 18:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by encourager4God 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness! Why do the people here constantly try to revise what it means to be married/in a relationship? My guess is that it has a whole hell of a lot to do with the feminization of our culture. What is this diatribe about "if he cheats, he can't cherish you...love is fidelity..." The whiny, moaney, bunch of malarkey that is only part of the downfall of marriage as an institution...jeez, grow up and get over it!
Sorry to say that Oprah was totally WRONG - actually, she's not married and her boyfriend likes men, but everyone wants the relationship that Oprah says you should have. Reality check: Men are just that, MEN! If you want to be sure your man doesn't want to be with another woman you have two choices (1) Marry a homosexual, or (2) stay single...and that's no matter what your "honey" tells you.
2006-08-30 20:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by dirtyhungrythirsty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you see in that vow to cheat and be cheated on? NO you don't. It's for better or for worse, richer, poorer sickness health etc. KEY to this vow is TO LOVE AND TO CHERISH - NO MATTER WHAT - so if you love that person that much WHY WOULD YOU EVER even THINK about cheating on her/him. If my "better half" right now, got sick - we had no money - no nothing - I would stay with him until "death" and be there for him - hug him, hold him, NO MATTER what - we could lose everything - but IF WE HAVE EACH OTHER (and we do) WE WILL GET THROUGH IT ALL. (Uh, sorry didn't mean to preach so much) SEMPER FI
2006-08-30 18:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by Marine Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The vows you take with the lucky person you marry probably will be the most sacred thing you ever do in your life. Yes, for better or for worse. Would you only stay with them because they hit the lottery? How about if they hit the lottery and fell on hard times? Does that constitute the right for you to just up and leave them? No. You don't have to remain in a marriage if it's abusive (mentally or physically), but you should always try to work your problems out. Don't give up on the person you love. If you do, what else are you going to give up on?
2006-08-30 18:17:05 · answer #6 · answered by tammy_girl61 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I do. I think most people have the best intentions to honor their vows. That can only take you so far down life's road. Marriage is tough road a path that is very narrow, marriage takes a lot of work. You sometimes trip a long the way and sometimes fall. When you love each other you are there to help your partner up, brush them off and go on again.
Some people go into marriage with a false expectations and just don't realize how much work a marriage is when the tough times come.
2006-08-30 18:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by Tanker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were going into a marriage with even the smallest thought of you or your partner cheating or of the possibility of problems down the road, then I say you shouldn't be saying those vows. When I said my vows, I took them seriously and always will. Same for my husband. I also swore to myself that I would never marry for the wrong reasons. I would rather be single for the rest of my life than to not be 110% sure.
I would say the 'better or for worse' line refers to good times and hard times that naturally occur in life, not a situation that your spouse inflicts on the marriage.
2006-08-30 18:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by WaggyK 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well my vows included the phrase "forsaking all others", so cheating does not fall under "for worse", it falls under "you broke your wedding vows, you cheating so-and-so".
Other than that, there should be no reason for my marriage to end before I die. I love my wife with all my heart, and even though I am not religious, I consider my wedding vows to be a sacred bond. I would never cast her aside (unless she was the one doing the casting...see above). I'm pretty sure I could forgive her for anything except cheating.
2006-08-30 18:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by Danzarth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your spouse has cheated, then they are obviously rejecting their vows. They aren't loving and cherishing their spouse if they are out cherishing someone else! That is a deal-breaker. If your spouse breaks the vows, they are no longer means to stay together. If you both honor your vows, you will have a wonderful marriage!
2006-08-30 18:12:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i take my marriage vows seriously. My husband and I came close to getting a divorce twice, not because of cheating or anything. I am glad that we remained together and we are staying together.
2006-08-30 18:14:26 · answer #11 · answered by Not the one for you! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋