im 18 been married for 4 years and its been rough i recently caught my husband kinda cheatin on the internet more than 4 chat lines but when i went to the chat lines there weren no friends, recent emails or anythin they went back to july 14 and he said him and his little cousin were messin around in the computer before all of this i have never had proof that he has cheated on me exept the one time he was callin a girl from out of the country and he said he was lonely that they just talked and that he has never seen her, i am very upset he still lives with his ***** of a mom and i live with mine so we are kinda seperated but he finally got a job to supposebly move us out , i feel like i cant trust him anymore what should i do?
2006-08-30 10:58:50 · 17 answers · asked by eliza 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you're kind of young to be married, and I wouldn't be surprised if he is cheating on you. He's young obviously, and I guess he feels like he's missing out. But really, I'm not here to judge, but I do want you to know where my opinion is coming from. I'd say he's probably testing the waters. But that is not something you should forgive easily. If it were me, I'd confront him about it. But get some proof before you decide.
2006-08-30 11:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by dimkaluv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I you can not trust him after 4 years of a relationship you never will be able to. If he loves you he will be faith full to you only and make you feel like a queen not a throw away dish rag. Find someone worth your time and attention, you will thank me in the end. How can you trust anyone that would marry at or to a 14 year old? ang248@yahoo.com Angelo in Detroit
2006-08-30 18:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by Angelo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you live with your mothers if you are married? Obviously it was okay for you two to get married because I don't know of any state that will allow a 14 year old to get married without parental consent, so I don't get why you are living apart. Obviously you should divorce him and not even think about marriage for 10 more years....
2006-08-30 18:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on with your life... If there is kids, see that he gets a job, or file for divorce & child support. You might as well since you both are living seperate lives. It starts on the net and ends up for the real thing.
2006-08-30 18:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by Z-Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u cant trust him u shouldnt marry him..u guys are kinda young to be married but to each their own....just remember he's still young and wanting to explore...so if u cant trust him now whats to say u can trust him down the road? i say get a divorce and cut ur loss...live and learn find u a man who actually wants u and is honest....but let urself be a teenager while u still can!
2006-08-30 18:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by JusMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with what your gut tells you, it is usually right. You married way to young anyways and I'm sure you will realize that as you grow up your likes and dislikes will change and so will you. Your outlook about him might change as well you might not want im anymore.
2006-08-30 18:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
married at 14, not good, as for the living arrangement, also not good, him chattin with girls on the internet, no harm there, but accually calling on the phone and long distance to boot, really not good, think you migh wann reconsider this marriage thingy with the young lad
2006-08-30 18:04:21 · answer #7 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18 years old you have no business being married. So maybe it's good that you guess are separated for some time.
2006-08-30 18:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by KEY 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust is hard your never going to work it out my running home to your mothers. If you really want it to work you need to spend time talking and being honest.
Its easy to leave its harder to stay.
2006-08-30 18:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to trust him. but let him be aware you do not like being cheated.
2006-08-30 18:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋