How do u react when u find out that ur husband has been speaking to various females all @ one time??

Answer 1

I' ll probably feel VERY mad!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Speaking? Well, elaborate on this some more. If it's simple conversation, I'd react calmly and not make a shizzload of a deal. He's human. We have to talk about something.

If it's something dealing with cheating, you ought to confront him. Warnings don't do any good, as I know from my parents. Cut him loose, if this is the case. It's hard, but you have to be harder.

Answer 3

I'm not married, but I will tell you how my gf reacted:
She went through my computer/browser/documents etc, found some old pictures of friends of mine(like 5 years old) along with some online profiles like myspace of some college friends of mine, and was all pissy for a few days. Then my firewall log showed all these websites visited(I manually clean my logs after each reboot), I confronted her for her behavior, and now I'm breaking up with her, because I just don't want to stay in such a "dead end" relationship. You'd think you know someone after 4 years.

Answer 4

I agree with Projectedly Dejected. What's wrong with speaking to other women?

My husband and I both have tons of friends of both sexes. It's just not a big deal; we're still totally committed to each other and there's nothing going on that would make the other person suspicious.

We go out to dinner or lunch with various friends, with and without our spouse, but it's not a "date" any more than it is when I go out with my brother.

In fact, some of our best friends are his ex-girlfriends (one of whom has since remarried.) Their relationships with him are QUITE resolved and they're still on excellent terms.

In other words, yes, it is quite possible to trust your spouse 100%.

However, that's MY situation... yours is obviously much less comfortable.

Do you feel you have good reason to be suspicious? Try talking to him about your concerns... stay calm and try not to sound like you're overreacting. Tell him how it makes you feel, rather than saying something like "You have female friends, you must be cheating!"

If he reassures you and offers to take steps to make you feel more comfortable, that's a good sign. If he tells you you're crazy or blows off your concerns as if they don't matter, that's bad.

But if he tells you you're overreacting, step back mentally and consider -- maybe you are less calm than you think, or maybe you're focusing more on this than you really should, making it an issue when it doesn't have to be.

However, even if he thinks you're overreacting? As your partner, he should still be willing to work with you to make sure you're comfortable with how he behaves -- whether that means you just need a reassurance of his fidelity, or a change in his behavior, or both.

But above all, try to stay calm and objective about how happy you are otherwise! It's all too easy to filter everything mentally to match a theory once you start worrying about cheating. Good luck!

Answer 5

I am going to tell you form the males perspective. You have to try and show your husband more attention and affection The problem might be that he is get bored or doesnt feel the same attraction level as before. so just try to do more things with him outside of the house and have fun as if you to were teens again

Answer 6

Wow, well don't you think that depends on the situation and his intentions? If we are having a gathering or party and there are a lot of women friends there, I wouldn't mind. It's just conversation. If it's anywhere else and his INTENTIONS are to cheat, then that's a different story. It's not the place or the number of women. It is his intentions for talking to them that matters.

Answer 7

If this would be over internet I would be less upset than if in person or on phone . First reaction I would probobly want to lose my temper. But think before blame, ask him about this in a rational manner. Then talk to him and see what his reaction would be to your questioning him. If he gets really upset then I would worry. Let him know that this bothers you, but do it in a calm way. If he gets upset ask him if the shoe would be on other foot how would he feel!

Good Luck!!

Answer 8

What a jerk. Confront him. Then leave him. When he's single, he can feel free to speak to whomever he choses. He can't be allowed to have his cake and eat it too. Unless of course you fit both those bills. Sadly, in this case, you do not.

Good luck.

Answer 9

my sister~ I dont know if you are a christian or not but the Bible says, "be Angry, but do not sin". Your emotions are natural but do not let your husband cause you to fall as well. The Bible tells us that we should forgive each other 70x70 times, as we ask Christ to do the same for us. I encourage you and your husband to seek God's Word as it relates to your covenant to each other. This world has twisted the perception of fidelity to think that certain things; chatting online for one, is harmless and thats just not true. If you put God first, and seek to please Him before you seek to please yourselves, you will always please each other and he will feel no need to find comfort or conversation in another woman. Be encouraged, with Christ all things are possible.

God bless you and keep you...

Answer 10

You ought to be really proud of being married to such a social stud who can juggle more than a female at one time.

Answer 11

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