I am 12 weeks pregnant. My husband is very involved, which is great. But he wants to be at all my dr. appointments which I want him to be there as well, however, he wants to be in the room when they do the 'exams'. I told him that that was something that is uncomfortable enough, let alone with him watching. Am I wrong to not want him in there, only during the exams? Are there any husbands who have been in the rooms when they are doing these? How many woman wouldn't mind their husbands staying in there?
2006-08-30 10:52:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have 2 children. My then husband, now passed away, wasnt there for most of my appointment then, so I do know what it is like to go through a pregnancy alone. I am thankful that my husband now does want to be involved, it's just uncomfortable for me. Yes he will be at the birth.
2006-08-30 11:08:54 · update #1
It's your body and it's completely your choice whether or not you are comfortable having him there. If it was me, I think I'd want him around to talk with the doctor about what's going on with the pregnancy, to see the ultrasound and to hear the hearbeat, but I wouldn't want him there when they ratchet me open with a speculum.
2006-08-30 12:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by mockingbird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my first baby my husband came to every single appointment and stayed in for every thing. But he wouldn't stand where he could see or stare when I was being examined. I think he was uncomfortable with me having a guy doctor. But he wanted to know what was going on. Then with my second and third pregnancies he didn't come to any of my appointments and didn't really seem involved with the pregnancy at all. So I made him watch the kids at home during my appointments that I would be getting checked, so I didn't have to deal with them. I guess he already knew what was going on so he didn't care to come. I don't really care either way whether he was there for the exams or not, but I did like him being more involved with the pregnancy and giving me more support and attention. I just consider the exams a medical necessities and nothing to be weirded out about.
2006-08-30 18:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by mommyem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was there for the first exam and was so grossed out that he was not interested in being there for that part after that. It's not bad, however, to get them used to that idea before you are in labor with nurses and doctor in the room for your delivery. There is nothing wrong with your husband being in the room, but if it makes you uncomfortable, it should be your choice. You could also consider compromising by saying that he can come in the room, but you want him to stay up with you by your head so he doesn't have a view of what's going on.
2006-08-30 17:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by Cara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy that your husband is there for you. Your husband has already seen every part of your body, so it shouldn't matter if he's there when you do the exams. Do you want your husband to be there when you give birth? Your husband wants to support you by being there for you. If this is your first child, it's normal for your husband to feel that he needs to be there. You'll feel different if you were dealing with this pregnancy by yourself.
2006-08-30 18:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs Apple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made my husband stay in there. It's normal, he's been down there before and should get used to it....the rest of your pregnancy that's what's going to be going on...people giving you exams. I think it's just you. I didn't mind my husband in the least.
2006-08-30 17:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is awkward to "touched" by your doctor with your husband present. Pregnancy is hard enough without the discomfort of wondering what your husband is thinking while watching you grimace or twinge during an exam.....of any kind! Although you my handle the discomfort of exams in stride, your husband may get worried about what the doc is doing to his wife that makes her make such awful faces. It may also be in his benefit not to see you in any pain or discomfort. Trust me, he'll have enough to deal with in the delivery room!
2006-08-30 18:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not mind. I rather have him there than being alone. Now a days you can't even trust your own Doctors.
Watch the news, have you heard of some dentist putting the women to sleep to do denture work and the women get felt all over or raped. More power to him, he is a wonderful, caring husband.........let him go, do not discourage him away from you.
2006-08-30 18:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel so lucky to have him so involved with your pregnancy. My husband was with me sometimes and other times my mother. It doesn't bother me at all. I would hate to be alone and have a doctor do that.
2006-08-30 17:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by sweenygirll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt want my boyfriend in the room for the exams. It is very incomfortable and i completely understand where you are coming from. I just didnt want him in there for the papesmear. Everything else i dont mind. You are not wrong for telling him that.
2006-08-30 17:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Alyssa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband wanted to be there too. for everything. i didn't have a problem with it but if it makes you feel uncomfotable you should tell your husband that. my husband was uncomfotable with the doctor is why he wanted to be there as well. i did it to ease my husbands mind and after the first ten guys putting there fingers inside you it gets a little easier. just talk to your husband.
2006-08-30 18:02:37 · answer #10 · answered by liketoplay420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋