My boyfriend and I had a discussion last weekend about our relationship and where we stand together. He said that he is not the kind of guy who will just say that we will be together forever without thinking about everything carefully. He says he prefers to think about things before making such decisions. Also he added he is still building his career so he has enough stress with that. He said that we had some difficult situations together before like arguments and this makes him hesitate to be sure about us. He said that he feels under pressure as I told him I wanted to know where this relationship is going. He said that we need to spend some time apart to see where we stand together. He has pulled away since and I haven't heard from him since Monday. He has gone from being so sweet to me a month ago to being silent and distant? I am feeling a little worried not sure what is going on and what should I do now? I am not even sure when am I going to see him next as he hasn't said so?
2006-08-30 10:50:10 · 12 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you love something let it go... if it returns it is meant to be!
2006-08-30 10:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by kssunflower 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Goph28. He's say's he hesitant to think about the future with you because you had some arguments? Every relationship has an argument now and then. He seems more focused on his life and career and your on the back burner. Do really want the kind of guy that's always going to put you last? He seems like the kind of guy that would have no problem leaving you and not look back. You deserve better.
2006-08-30 11:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you need to give him space. Blokes need it. The more you have given him to think of, the more he needs.
Trust in the bloke thing. I'm going through a similar thing. He's pulled away for quite a time. I saw him today, after 4 weeks apart. We've being dealing with very separate and serious stuff.
I didn't encourage him to make any moves, but he touched base today, and we are meeting to talk next week....at his request.
Give him time. Hard as it is, he'll be back!
2006-08-30 11:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe he needs some space and maybe he is not ready for a relationship right now - maybe he's not mature enough. It sounds like he feels threatened by your asking where the relationship's going - maybe he's just not ready for the same level of commitment as you are.
2006-08-30 11:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by Cina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously not ready for a commitment right now. I know its hard but move on for the sake of your own sanity
2006-08-30 11:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by tracey e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him... if you keep pushing him.. he will back off completely and freak out and then that will be your relationship over...
i know how hard this is to do... as i am having the same trouble with my man/ if i can call him that!! and i hate it, not texting him not emailing him..... its awful!!! but it best to leave him to and let him have some space....
2006-08-30 10:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by meow22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just wants the fun without the commitment
2006-08-30 12:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by JAMES OY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously your not that important to him if he prefers his career let him run on im sure you will find some one else
2006-08-30 10:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a guy with his head screwed on right
2006-08-30 11:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by Barson 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may have turned gay and is doing his boyfriend behind your back
2006-08-30 16:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by the big D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋