Wives that have cheated?? Have you ever got yourself in a situation unplanned that was difficult to get out?

Question

This is a question for any wives that have cheated on their husband but were really in love with their husband. Some will say that if you cheat, that you could not have loved your husband. Is this true? Have you ever cheated without just cause? Meaning, that temptation occurred at the right moment and place to cause you to do something that was completely out of character. I have read a lot lately on "affair-proofing" a marriage. Yes, I had a wife that cheated but after reading books and such, I was able to reflect back on several situations or moments that I probably would have cheated given the correct circumstance. I know I did not "affair-proof" my marriage. I just had blind trust in my wife and she had blind trust in me. However, she and I put ourselves(not often) in situations that could have led to cheating. Example: Me drinking with all single guys going to the club talking with single women - the right women that was aggressive probably would have sealed the deal.

Furthermore, she cheated on the first trip that she had out of town with single girls. Again, first time experience, right situation, drinking, right guy that said the right things, etc. Looking back, she should not have gone on a trip with single girls. I should not have let her. Once there, she definately should not have been drinking. In fact, her single friends all left the party with guys and left her in the club by herself with a guy they all just met. Some friends.

Answer 1

I cheated on my husband before we were married. He was gone for 6 months in the military. I was lonely. So my 'friends' and I would go out to have a good time and try to take my mind off of the fact that he was gone. We would start drinking and one thing led to another and well you get the picture. It wasn't that I didn't love him, I did and I still do. Just my friends were very much like my husband and they would do the things he would do, dance the way he danced, talk the way he talked, and so on. Looking back I know that I shouldn't have had so much to drink for one, and two should have picked my friends a little better. After it happened I was open and honest about it with him, thank God he forgave me and can look past who I was then. I don't think cheating always means that you don't love someone. I was lonely, my friends took advantage of the situation, and I allowed myself to be taken advantage of.

Answer 2

I think that when you are cheating you can stop loving your husband or boyfriend as much but it does not neccessarily mean you stop loving them altogether. You can get that love back after the affair too, but it can be difficult from her point of view depending on if and how much she loved the other man (If it was an emotional affair or just physical.)

You need to find out how she feels. If she says she loves you you can take that or try to find out if she really does. Councilling might help.

Also if she had a one night stand it is very different to is she made a choice for months to see another.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to say I did cheat on my first husband. I wasn't happy and didn't love him anymore. I am remarried and would never cheat on this one because I truly am still in love with him. And also I learned from the ex that cheating doesn't help anything out, I do regret cheating because of how hurt it made him and I would never want to put someone through that pain again. In my opinion if you cheat , then you really cannot love that person you cheated on.

Answer 4

All women are capable of cheating. So are all men. Right time, right words and circumstances will do it often.

You can't stop the inevitable. I'd quit worrying about it and live if I were you.

Answer 5

People make choices, and unless she was drugged, she knew what she was doing and knew it was wrong. No excuse.

Answer 6

greenseyes is right. sorry that it happened 2 u.