my divorce makes me feel like a LOSER. what shall i do? i am 25 yrs. old and very lonely too.?

Question

i am asking 'coz i don't want to go to a shrink for therapy

Answer 1

First: You are not a loser. Surround yourself with family and friends for support, plus this way you won't be lonely. Join a gym, get a hobby, get involved in co-ed sports, these are just a few ways you can meet new people.

Answer 2

What part of the divorce makes you feel like a loser? I was married in April of 2005, he decided to separate in August of 2005, divorce papers were drawn in December of 2005 and in June of 2006, it was final. I am 23 years old. So we were only technically married for 4 months. But that to me was a blessing in disguise. I found a really amazing guy, we bought a new house together, and have a 3 month old black lab. Divorce happens. Believe me, you aren't the first person to get one, nor will you be the last. This is the time to go out, have fun, hit the clubs, and do whatever you want!!!! Live it up.

Answer 3

<---------I am 24 and going through this too. I look at it this way, now I get to really find my other half. I'm not saying I am gonna go out the night I move out or anything, but now I can have the option of not being treated like I was. I deserve respect and love, and a husband that won't give that to you is worthless. I am not saying all men are dogs, there are a lot of great men out there waiting for you!

What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger. Next time you find someone, you can be a little picky, and more cautious, I know I will take a lot more time than just 2 years to get to know someone.

Good Luck and God bless! Email me if you wanna talk.

Answer 4

We have all felt that way, too. You think that you have failed at the most important relationship people can have, and that you are now "less" of a person. It is all false. You are still a valuable person, just one with more experience.

You need to do things to make yourself feel good. Try new make-up, new hair style, new clothes. Are there any hobbies you want to try? Now is a good time to start.

Set personal goals for your self and work toward them. One of my goals was to finish my Master's degree. It took a long time and a lot of loans, but it did it! I got a better job and was able to pay the loans off early. That was another good thing.

When I was first divorced I felt that I was not worth anything. I could not even look at myself in a mirror. All I saw was a loser. Now I can look in the mirror and like what I see. I know that I am able to make it through life on my own. I have a lot of friends because of my new self-confidence. The better you feel about yourself the more people you attract.

Just when I was completely satisfied with my single life and enjoying every minute of it, someone special found me. Completely by accident with no intention of falling in love, I met my honest to goodness "soul mate." I know he would never have entered my life if I had not been through all the things in my past. The past is what drove me to improve my life to the point where I met this wonderful man.

You need to learn from the bad marriage, but don't live in the past. You are a great person on the inside. Just start to pamper that person and see what you can do to improve that person.

Answer 5

Let me use this as an example I have a cousin whom is 25 and will be 26 next month.. Stuck making 7.50 or so (under 8 bucks an hour) at the moment.. She lives with her mom and has a child. So.. No, you're NOT a loser! In this economy anything is better than NOTHING!

Answer 6

You're not a loser, there are a lot of divorced people out there. Hang out with friends, meet new people, get a new hobby that you've always wanted to try, and generally keep busy.

Being single has it's ups and downs, one of the downs is being lonely, but you deal with it by taking comfort in your friends, family and even pets.

Do something to feel good about yourself, a new outfit, hair style..etc. I hope you find the happiness you're searching for.

Answer 7

Everyone feels like a loser after a divorce...trust that you are the same person you always were, time will heal the hurt and fears, and you will be fine. In the mean time, get out more, meet new people, go out with old friends (single friends, married ones stay home), and soon, you will have a whole new life. Just don't go "falling in love" soon, you need time to heal. good luck, the world is yours and is waiting for you...go get it on a string.

Answer 8

You're not alone in feeling this way. Try your best to keep busy - try a new hobby, get in touch with old friends you haven't seen in a while, go out, spend time with the family, read a good book - anything to keep your mind occupied. Social support network is crucial, reach out to your trusted friends, you'll be amazed to find that a lot of people have had painful experiences in the past - but they got over it eventually, and are leading happy lives. Time heals everything; tough it out and give it time - you will feel better in a few months! Good luck!

Answer 9

I have never been divorced, but I hear is a painful thing to go through. Specially for the one that tried to save the marriage. My questions is; why people always look at divorce as if it was the only solution to marital problems?

Why is there so many divorces in the world?

My marriage has not been a road of roses, but I have turned to the highest Power "GOD" and He's given me wisdom an how to handle a marriage. With out that power I would been divorce and thinking that the grass might be greener at the other side of the river.

I don't really know how to answer your question, but I wish you don't have to go through a divorce again.

Answer 10

okay start with that avatar! throw it in the garbage. Go get yourself a new look, hairdo,clothes whatever makes a lady feel good about herself! And if ur 25 whoa what are waiting for there are a 100 men out there better than the one u had! we are pulling for u, and we will leave the light on.