Lets say you are married and your spouse can not have sex with you anymore . They don't withdraw because they don't love you but because of some medical reason or emotional reason. Do you still love them? Think hard about the one you are with now. Makes you wonder if you really love that person doesn't it?
2006-08-30 10:06:34 · 23 answers · asked by Tina 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I had this talk with my mate before.
We decided we'd still stay together if this should happen. I know I'd love him still, even if that happened. And he said the same thing for me. He said he'd love me and care for me just as much if I couldn't have sex, and I said the same thing to him.
2006-08-30 10:12:25 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Myrkr 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
A medical Reason is a Valid reason - if you stop loving someone because of a medical condition it makes me wonder if you ever actually loved that person in the first place.
An emotional reason is something that needs to be worked through, if they refuse because of an emotional issue, they need to either seek counseling, or try to work through it with you. If they refuse to do one of these two things, either their is a larger issue that they don't want to talk about, or they are still numb or in pain. Give them time, if they still don't come back to you , then you may need to go to couples counseling.
Your body may be used to having sex, however sometimes your Partners happiness is more important then whether or not your sex-drive has been satisfied, consider the implications on your life if you make an off the cuff assumption that they don't love you.
And most of all, TALK with your partner, just because they said something that hurt your feelings, or something you don't agree with, doesn't mean you cannot try to work out, in a calm, cool, and collected manner your disagreement.
2006-08-30 10:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by klilly84 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a hard question for anyone who hasn't been in that place.
I have been in a place where the person I was married too didn't like sex,, emotionally he couldn't do it,, we went months and months without touching each other, without having any intimacy. It's very hard emotionally to accept the fact that the one thing that is supposed to bond you together as husband and wife isn't happening.
I am sure it's a little different if it were to be a medical reason, because you can still be intimate and loving towards each other.
2006-08-30 10:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by B V 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
By sex, do you mean intercourse? If intercourse is not an option due to medical reasons, there are other things that can be done to bring pleasure and intimacy to both partners.
If it's an emotional reason, then it needs to be addressed through therapy, whatever, to resolve the problem and allow intimacy (not necessarily intercourse) back into the relationship.
If two people love each other, they should want to please the other person. It's a give and take, adapting to changes in each other, with communication, commitment and honesty forming the foundation to work through anything -- together.
Does that answer your question?
2006-08-30 10:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't have to think hard, nor does it make me wonder. I have already been in that situation due to illness, medications involved, surgeries, and depression due to the illness. I'm still here, happy as I can be. Sex is really low on the list as far as my marriage is concerned, she is my friend. I have been celibate for months at a time, and it didn't affect my quality of life at all. I was too busy taking care of my friend to worry much about it.
2006-08-30 14:08:22 · answer #5 · answered by Toyman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this person is the love of your life, then you will love them for more than sex.
I'm divorced, and currently single. It's amazing how you miss other intimate moments, like just cuddling up in front of the telly, or lying in on a Sunday morning and chatting! Make the best of what you've got - many people have far less.
2006-08-30 10:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are truly in love then the problem should endear you to your spouse more. There are other ways of sharing intimate moments without sex! If you need to step outside of your vows of marriage to fulfill your needs then you need to look at what your marriage is truly about. Is it truly love or is it just the fulfillment of sexual desires. Such relationships will not last long if it's only fulfillment of the flesh. True love is found in the spirit.
2006-08-30 10:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by Carolyn T 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whether or not you have sex with someone should not define your relationship. That is only one dimension (hopefully) and even if it fades away, which it eventually will, a true loving, caring relationship will survive. I know that I would still love my husband because we were friends first. Now we are just best friends...with lots of benefits! :)
2006-08-30 10:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by birdlover515 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I would still love them. This happens to more people than you might know...
and besides... there are other ways to have intimacy that may not consist of "sex" in the penetration sense.
2006-08-30 10:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by Blah Blah Blah 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is a commitment and a covenant. I promised my husband that I would love him for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health. That I will do. However, my commitment is not because I have to. It is because I truly love him no matter what. I will always stick by his side.
2006-08-30 10:18:11 · answer #10 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋