My husband and I are borrowing a bed from the military right now, its a double, wrapped in plastic. Sometimes it feels to small and uncomfortable so I lay on the floor between the bed and wall on blankets I've been doing this now on and off for about two months. I'm wondering if me laying on the floor and my husband by himself in the bed can create any kind of mental distant between us or our marriage? Does the sleeping in two different places really matter?
2006-08-30 09:50:48 · 24 answers · asked by dlmvm0612 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no it shouldnt but dont you think buying a new bed would do the trick
2006-08-30 09:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're trying to get some sleep. The reality is that people who do sleep alone tend to get better quality sleep.
If it was a situation where you normally slept together and now you don't due to friction in the relationship, then the issue is what causes the friction versus not sleeping in the same bed.
I'd rather sleep in different beds than have both of us in a bad mood cause we didn't get very good sleep.
2006-08-30 10:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has a bad back and the doctor told him to get this one bed and it is real uncomfortable for me especially when I was pregnant so I sleep in my kids room in the extra bed there because I cannot handle that bed my back gets so stiff and ahhhh its just real uncomfortable. I have been sleeping in my kids room since I was about 4 months pregnant and the baby is 6 months now. Our relationship is fine though - if I ever go to his bed its for only one thing.
2006-08-30 12:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ to ...... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does matter and it will definitely cause problems in your marriage. I sleep in a different room from my husband and there is a total strain on our marriage. My advise to you is to buy a bigger bed as soon as possible even a queen size air mattress would do for now. Or have him join you on the floor where there is more room. But please do something fast! The longer you put off doing something about your situation the more problems you will have with your marriage! Good luck to you and your husband!
2006-08-30 10:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by pandabear22 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how you both feel about it... My finacé and I are sleeping in separate rooms, he has a snoring problem, and I have insomnia. The two are not compatible, so this is what we have to do until he loses some weight and hopefully stops snoring. It's not really a problem unless you make it out to be. (Truthfully, I prefer sleeping alone.) We always go to bed together, and read or talk in bed before we actually go to sleep, and then one of us goes to the guest room for the rest of the night.
2006-08-30 10:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 6'2", and my wife is 5'6''. We once had to sleep on a single bed. Yup, it was crowded, but we slept together. I don't care if both sleep on the bed, on the floor, or in the yard- sleep together. Waking up at 2 am, and snuggling up to my wife IS one of the nice parts of being married.
2006-08-30 10:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a marriage, sex is important. So as long as thats still happening, I think it's okey. But, why isn't he sleeping on the floor? Indian couples sleep in separate beds, sometimes.
2006-08-30 10:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by indystyl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like alot of the other posters said, if your relationship is ok, then there is no big deal. My fiance and I slept in different rooms, I had a waterbed and loved it(especially the heat for cramps!), but his back couldn't handle it. Some nights we'd bunk together, but most of the time apart.
2006-08-30 10:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is up to the couple.Some marriages have 2 bed,or one big bed in the same room.You can talk with your husband what you really want.answer: the couple decide what is better.
2006-08-30 09:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are both alright with this sleeping arrangement then I see no problem with it. Maybe you should both sleep on the floor and get rid of the bed!!!!
2006-08-30 09:56:11 · answer #10 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the person. Me personally would be bothered. I think of that time as one on one time for me and my husband that no one but the two of us share. Others wouldn't be bothered by it. Plus yours is only for the short term and it isn't by choice. So I think you should just hurry up and save up for a new bed!
2006-08-30 09:57:01 · answer #11 · answered by seahorse06089 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋