Should we marry any time soon?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years we lived together for most of our relationship and i love him soo much we are both young 19 year old students who work fulltime. I know he loves me and hes talked about the future with me and he says hes going to ask me but im still not sure if its right for us to get married at this time we are both young but so in love. I know i want to marry him..so will waiting make things easier or if im sure we are going to eventully should we just get married soon? We have been through alot and we are still together so i know our relationship can stand..and he truly is my best friend and i love him soo much and i dont want any one else....so i just need advice from older wiser people whove been throught this or something like this! Any advice will help..thanks! :)

Im not scared and Its not just him that wants to get married i do to...i just wanted advice on that

Answer 1

I think, if you both feel you're committed to this relationship - what's there to keep you from getting married? I mean, yes, you may grow apart eventually, and go your separate ways - it happens to people. But - it may happen next year, it may happen 5 years, 12, 15 years from now. How long are you prepared to "wait"? No amount of waiting will assure a successful relationship. It's your love and committment to each other, your patience and tolerance, your willingness to work on making it happen that will make a difference. It makes sense to wait for some time, especially when you're young; but after 3 years, I don't know what else will tell you whether or not you're prepared for your future together.

On the other hand - if it doesn't feel quite "right", don't hurry into it. Listen to your gut feeling, ask yourself whether or not you can imagine this person, with all his quirks and imperfections, living with you for many, many years ahead? IMO, it's not as important how "perfect" you are for each other - what's more important it is how you handle the flaws and imperfections, and how accepting you're prepared to be towards the other person. Be realistic in your expectations. You sound very together and mature, I wish you all the best. Don't be afraid of marriage; all good things in life come with a risk; as the Russians say - one who doesn't take risks, doesn't drink champagne.

Answer 2

No marriage right now.
The fact that you have doubts, or are scared is all the info you need.
Talk to your guy, and say, that you know you will one day, so there should be no rush.
I married my husband because we'd already been together for 11 years, and basically I was tired of having to answer the so when are you gonna question. I let myself be pressured into it, when I truly had no desire of my own whatsoever, and it really ruined the whole deal.
You can be engaged. You can even pick a tentative date, after you're done with school. No marriage until you know for sure it's what you want right now.
Good luck

Answer 3

where are u from and how old r u? This problem makes many girls worried, u have to be patient cuz delaying the marriage could be ibtla2 from Allah. wake up at the final third of the night, pray and do dua' to Allah and don't forget the istghfar is very important. Edit @asker: u r 21, u still young, don't be worried, just keep asking Allah to send a good husband, girls can't do anything except waiting till the guys find us. @asket: when u ask for God's forgiveness by saying استغفر الله (repeat it more than 100 times each day) @asker: i'll check it tonight insh'Allah :) @virgo: i heard that salat al haja is a bed'A, do u have any idea?

Answer 4

My fiance and I have been together for 14+ years. We've been through thick and thin and our love keeps getting stronger and stronger. Someday we will get married but we're both content the way things are at the moment. You don't have to marry someone to prove that you love them. If you get married when your not ready it might hurt your relationship. Take your time, finish school, build up a bank account. Be prepared for your future, don't rush into it.

Answer 5

First ask yourself, what is the reason you want or need to get married now? Wait until you both graduate from school. If you both are certain you will be together forever, that should be enough for now. Getting married is no guarantee of future happiness, if that's what you're seeking.

Answer 6

You answered you own question,you two love each other and so why rush ,wait til you both are ready.Its alot of pressure on young married people as it is so dont put any more than you need right now.

Answer 7

Don't be in too big of a hurry to get married. If he is the right guy for you now, he will still be the right guy for you a few years from now. Take your time and be sure this is what you want.

Answer 8

You really should wait....you both love each other and better yet...you are still young, you have your entire life ahead of you. Just wait a few more years when both of you are settled and know what you want and you are able to get it. Explain it to him and good luck

Answer 9

You've been together this long, finish your school,and whatever else you want to do before marriage and children.If your not sure then you must wait. Since he love's you he isn't going anywhere.Good Luck!!!!!

Answer 10

don't rush into marriage.. you love each other.. you are happy... stay the way you are... finish your studies.. get a job.. don't get pressured into marriage.. and explain to your boyfriend how you feel.. so he knows you love him and want to be with him.. but you prefer waiting... he should understand.. and probably feel the same way...

then you can talk about it again in a couple of years...