Ok heres how it started. When i was 12 i had a boyfriend name David and a best guy friend named Jesse we where all bestfriends.. Me and David dated on and off till i was 17. My parents moved me away to get me away from David. I kept in touch with Jesse. Got married,divorced within 2 years because i was still in love with David. I came back to my parents home with a son. Got back with David. On and off again for 3 years. Then i starting dating Jesse my friend. We have been togeather for 13 years but i still love David and see him daily. david still tells me we will be together one day. He is married. He married the woman his mom knew he was dating before she died. He says he loves me but is with her because his mother knew he was with her and he has a daughter with her in his mothers b-day. He says that what keeps him with her his mothers approvel. His sister and brother says i am is true love and only love. I feel the same way. Am i waiting for something that will never happen? Help
2006-08-30 09:34:24 · 9 answers · asked by pam b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He also said when his daughter is18 we will be togeather then. She is 13 i have 5 years. Should i wait. We are soul mates. We come to each other to help solve our problems in our other relationship. We know waht each other want and what we need. Also we do not have sex. But there are kisses, Hugs, and we send as much time together as possible. I know this will hurt Jesse very much. But he knows our history and why David is with this other woman and that me and David still love each other. He knows about all of beside the kisses.
2006-08-30 09:38:40 · update #1
The prolem is i love Jesse to and we have a 8 year old together. Also my kids both love Jesse and David and Davids daughter is at my house about every other day. We all have a good relationship. LIKE I SAID THERE HAS NOT BEEN ANY SEX BETWEEN US. I wouldnt do that because he is married and because of Jesse and my children. And he wouldnt do it either because of his wife and daughter. I have really thought of giving up and going on with my life with Jesse but David will always be in my life and there is always the question of what could have been.
2006-08-30 09:55:19 · update #2
First of all, you have to consider the fact that there are children involved on both parts. You need to take that into account.
Secondly, only YOU can determine who you want to be with. If you no longer want to be with Jesse, you need to break it off now instead of leading him on for five more years. If you want to start a life with David, then you need to let Jesse get on with his. That isn't fair to him, and, no offense, but you are wanting to have your cake and eat it too.
As for whether you and David will be together eventually, I can't answer that. Only you and David will find that out, and it sounds like it will take a while. It's not guarenteed that your "five year" plan is going to work out. So, by leaving Jesse and waiting for David, there is the chance that you may NOT be with David and will end up alone.
If the two of you love each other like you claim, nothing would hold you back. It is unfair to you, the people you are with, and YOUR CHILDREN. I don't think his mother's approval is the only thing keeping him with this woman. There must be something else. That is not a valid excuse for making you wait on him. Sounds like he's dangling two women along and loving it.
My advice to you is to take a time out. Search your heart and find out what you really want. No one can tell you that but you. But remember, it is unfair to all parties involved to keep up this game. And you will all end up miserable in the end if something doesn't give.
2006-08-30 09:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart r u sure this is love and not an obsession ??
besides if David wanted u he would be yours by now but he's not think u known why???
Anyways the only advice i can give you is to move on try someone new and get over david you'll like it trust me it would do you a lot better.
you'll see!
2006-08-30 09:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by britney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to decide which one is better for u i think he is david coz every one say u r his only love and stay away from any presure choose between them without meating travel somewhere no one can effect u and decide logically its ur life and ur sons life not a game
2006-08-30 09:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by loli pearl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my thought is to tell you to get out of it now.if he is cheating on his wife now what will he do when you to get hooked up cheat on you to.he sounds like a jerk.if you don't want to be with someone no matter what the reason.leave that person before you start another.
2006-08-30 09:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gosh, this really is a coplicated story. I am sorry to say it but David will never come back. If he really wanted to he would have done it already. Please move on, avoid him at all ends. You will eventually forget about him.
2006-08-30 09:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by Lil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe...I mean this relationship is not fair to either of you. He is fooling his wife into think that he loves her and THEY TOOK SACRED vows...that isn't right or fair to anyone. You need to move on because you need someone new. Good luck
2006-08-30 09:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by simpleplan0013 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you want to share one
2006-08-30 09:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by firepower06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless y'all elope, i dont c any change coming...
2006-08-30 09:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by rumbz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur not in love, ur in heat
2006-08-30 09:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋