My boss promised me a raise and then didn't give it to me at my review, even though I had done a lot of great things. So I went over his head and ended up getting it. Since then, he's been a total jerk to me and won't even talk to me; he will only communicate via email even though his office is right next to mine. He is very childish, going so far as to ignore me when I say good morning or let the door slam on me if he is in front of me. He is constantly trying to submarine me by pointing out errors in my work through email and copying the entire company, which is highly unnecessary. How should I deal with this?
2006-08-30 08:54:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Man it seems there a lot of those "bosses" out there and they are very childish. he seems to be taking it way way to personal. I would approach him in a mature way and ask if he has a problem with you. If he reacts childish, you can always walk away and just keep doing your job the best you can, but if it gets to the point where it is a little too much, go above him and report it. You did what you had too and that takes guts and confidence. Stick to it girl! Your work takes most of your time, so make sure it is an environment you want to be in!
2006-08-30 09:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by runnerbella 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only you will know the answer to this, but it causes me to wonder (at least a little) that when you went over his head and ended up with a raise, how careful and diplomatic was that accomplished? If there was any part of that over-the-head contact that one could say also included a feeling, a look, or words that expressed your discontent with your boss...or a conveyance of disrespect (even if you don't like him) then, what you are receiving right now, even though you might argue it isn't right and it's not nice, it can also be predicted. Your boss, no matter how bad he is, unskilled he is, unmanagement-like he is, does not look at himself that way, and when a subordinate torpedoes this person, the reaction will probably be very similar as it would be with you, if the roles were reversed. Just human nature. You are both now destined to work together in a close environment, sharing stress and discontent, until someone can't take it anymore and leaves.
2006-08-30 09:19:55 · answer #2 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your boss. Tell him you've noticed a change in his behavior toward you since you went to management to get the raise you'd been promised. Explain that it was not a personal issue--just a business matter. Ask what you can do to get back to the professional working relationship you had before this happened. See if this diffuses his rude behavior before you determine what to do next.
Then, start keeping records of everything he says and does that seem in appropriate. You may need records if he tries to accuse you of things you didn't do or if he begins to build a case to fire you. Keep a copy of these records in a safe place away from your work location. Read more about this at:
http://www.bigbadboss.com/Tips.html
Good for you for getting what you deserved! Now you've got to start protecting yourself.
2006-08-30 09:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by bigbadboss.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not healthy to live with conflict in the workplace....the longer this goes on, the more harmful it will be for the both of you. If he has a boss I suggest you talk to him/her. Just try to do your work to your best potential so that he can no longer point out errors and start looking for alternate positions (even within the same company) at the same time.
2006-08-30 09:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by Turak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two options here, one is to go over his head again, although if you did, you may end up looking more like a crybaby to the higher ups. The other would be to start looking for a new job, and explain to your boss and the higher ups as to why you are. If you are worth it, they will want to keep you and who knows, make you a good offer.
Aside from all that, your boss does not have to be nice to you, it does show his lack of professionalism, and immaturity. Maybe you should post a link to this question in an email to everyone at your work, including him. Just be sure to leave out his higher ups... lol...
2006-08-30 09:03:41 · answer #5 · answered by jeff the drunk 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Boss Jerks Grrr
Don't feed the fire..and it will burn out...He sounds like he is enjoying himself so my bets are ignore everything...If he wants to waste work time being a bully to you...his loss.Just keep working and just maybe Mr Boss will become Mr unemployed...And one day you can be his replacement...
2006-08-30 09:05:44 · answer #6 · answered by ????Shady???? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be professional at all times...and keep records of any dealings......when it pertains to any issues or misconduct too!! Try using reverse physiology and pretend it doesnt bother you ...it can eventually die off!! If not cover your ***......take notes and be prepared for BS...!!Good Luck!!!
2006-08-30 09:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by fxbeto 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep acting professional.
People will notice his behavior as compared to yours, and it won't look good for him.
2006-08-30 09:20:51 · answer #8 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit and start your own business, taking all the clients with you.
2006-08-30 09:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by eric r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him and the company and work for yourself over your Internet. One great opportunity is at:
http://TopFreedoms.com
Just fill out their 5 item form and you won't be sorry. I did and now I'm very happy helping others in need to help themselves to be successful.
2006-08-30 09:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋