I am going through a divorce and there is a small child involved. I am not looking to take the child away from the mother, but I do want my parental rights Im entiteled to. My wife has already threatened to make up lies to use against me in order to keep me away from my child and even my friends & family. She has also threathed my loved ones if I do not give up my parental rights. I have never missed a child support payment and I even pay her extra weekly. In the meantime I cant afford to live on my own. I just want joint custody and visitation with my child outside of being at her house. I want my parental rights I am entitled to. She is very bitter about the divorce and the baby suffers and goes through undue stress as a result of her hatred towards me. I am just concerned that the court will not see through her lies and manipulation. She lies so much I think that she even begins to believe the lies.
2006-08-30 08:39:32 · 13 answers · asked by case of the crazy x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh this is a hard one.. I have 2 boys and i would never want to be away from them so i hope it works out for you... And for the judge its there jobs to see right through the lie rs. For what goes around comes around just keep that in mind and keep you head up you sound like a good dad... good luck
2006-08-30 08:46:08 · answer #1 · answered by brutalA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex is doing the same type of things. She is very vindictive and I have a guardian at lit-em report that is favorable towards me. But the judge after two years will not read the report until trial because it is evidence. Now I have to hire the GAL as a witness to state what he wrote but now I am now into year three since I filed. Meanwhile, The ex wanted to go after my parents estate claiming that I have a large potential inheritance. The judge finally put a stop to that but it still a uphill battle and I have very little faith in this justice system that allows this to go on when the solution is fairly simple. If both parents are capable and no proof that neither parent is a threat to the child then shared parenting should be issued. If the parents can't come up with a parent plan for the children then a parenting coordinator should be assign to the case to resolve these issues vs. the judge and lawyers.
2006-09-01 21:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in a very tough situation, i have been there before. when paying your child support do you keep receipts? Of the extra that you give to her too.
Most of the time the court system will give joint custody unless there is something serious going on. If she has no proof to support her lies against you, the judge will not even hear it. What ever happens, for your child, do not give up. If she is making the baby's life hell, maybe you should consider getting full custody. The most important thing in this whole situation is your baby. The baby has to be put first, before her or your needs. Just keep fighting her and DOCUMENT EVERYTHING!!!!! Seriously write down everything, times she calls and what is said. That will help.
Good luck, i hope it all works out for you
2006-08-30 15:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Big D's Sexy Peach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, in any court of law, lies must be backed by hard evidence or will be considered as such and thrown out, so in other words, if she has no hard proof to back her up,then she has absolutely nothing and this will backfire on her. Once a court sees shes a liar, the judge will have a hard time believing anything else she says. Second, unless she has drug or child or mental issues or charges pending against her, she will be awarded custody of your child, and unless she can prove something terrible against you, you will get your states mandated visitation rights. But you dont have to prove your innocence against her lies, she has to prove her lies to the court. Without evidence the lies are hearsay and the judge wont put up with it. Divorce judges are well experienced with these things so you dont have a thing to worry about no matter what shes says. Also keep a record of her threats and how she did them as this could help you in court if something comes up or even gain custody of your child if the judge suspects something wrong. She is not allowed by law to threaten you in any way. Good luck and if I can be of further help, please feel free to email me
2006-08-30 16:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are paying on time and every time the judge will allow you your parental rights. I would lay low for now and just continue to pay and do what you are supposed to do. I think a judge would see the character you have displayed. Sounds like she might be bi-polar! Just my opinion, but maybe you should ask the judge when the right time comes to order her to be tested due to undue stress put upon the child by her. Who are you living with while this is going on...........hopefully, JUST a roomy. I wouldn't dream of involving another woman in your baggage right now. Judges see this stuff all the time...just keep your nose well picked! Hahaha! Good luck and God bless. Hope this helps.
2006-08-30 15:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is our judge and jury. If what you are saying is true then God will make a way for to receive joint custody and visitation rights. Not only that Jesus will work it out so that you may even have the child live with you. You will recieve what is just and fair. You can believe that. Pray and ask God to let the judge be understanding and have the wisdom to decifer right from wrong and ask God to place your child with the parent that has the child's best interest at heart because thats what its all about anyway the child. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-08-30 15:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work for a Judge and he can usually see thru the people who are full of crap. Make sure you have a lawyer and proof of the child support payments. You can also have friends and family members come to court to testify on your behalf. Unless she can prove you are some kind of monster then you should be ok.
2006-08-30 15:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by jacemo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would petition the Court for a Guardian at lit-em they look at the best interests of the child they are on neither side. I would also document dates,times, and what she said and did to show a pattern. I would advise others that she threatens to do the same thing. Also make sure that the Guardian At Lit em has access to all the witnesses. Don't exaggerate just explain your side and your fears and the fact you love your child and want whats best for him. I wish you the best.
2006-08-30 15:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by twinsmakesfive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The courts are now recognizing the father has parental rights too. I think you'll do ok. What ever allegations she makes about you....she'll have to back it up with facts. So watch what you do and be careful not to give her any ammunition.
2006-08-30 15:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can say whatever she wants, but she does have to prove it.
Have a good lawyer you are confidant in. It would be unusual to have no contact at all. That rarely happens.
2006-08-30 15:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋