2006-08-30 08:37:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's a fine line. The material things don't matter but having children does. As long as he wasn't physically and mentally abusive, I would try and stick it out. I know that you need to make yourself happy but the grass isn't always greener on the other side. That's really selfish behavior for a mom/dad to think. You can be happy with someone but not in love with them.
2006-08-30 08:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by Fool in the Rain 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This not an easy question. I think you are missing out on the greatest thing in life.....love. But should you break up a happy home because you are not in love? Well how did you get in this situation? You must have felt love at some point. You have to take yourself back to that time and try remember what is was like to be in love with this person. Love can be found just as easily as it was lost. You should try that first and if it doesn't work out you should let the relationship go. But that means you have to give up all those things you have, Which shouldn't matter anyway. It is up to you. When you look back on your life what will you see? What do you want to see? Find those answers and then decide. Good Luck!!
2006-08-30 15:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by princess_julia_star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't stay with someone that I don't love just because he can buy me anything that I want. I would try to work things out for the children but even with children somethings aren't meant to be. You dont' stay together for the sake of the children. If there is no love in the marriage then, how could any woman stay with a man that she doesn't love? How could you put your children thru that? It's not right or fair to them. Money can't buy everything and it sure can't buy you love.
2006-08-30 15:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY! life's too short and you can't take any of that with you when you die. consider how you would feel on your death bed after being in a loveless marraige all that time just for those reasons. people live a lot longer these days and you arent getting any younger so consider living with your decision for years to come if you stay. then consider the alternative and if it's something you could live with that's worth getting a divorce.
as far as your kids are concerned, if they know your not happy together, GET OUT NOW! kids are smart and very perceptive so don't think it won't effect them. maybe not now, but in the years to come. we learn about love and relationships at home first right.
i'm the product of divorced parents and i learned it's better not to settle if it means sacrificing your own happiness. i got over the divorce once i got older and realized how hard relationships really are. i look at my parents now with total understanding. unless your kids turn out to be spoiled brats, they will get through it one day too and material things can always be replaced.
plus, who knows, you may find someone new that you love and makes you so happy your life gets better leading to more money than your first marraige. at least that's what happened to my mom. she changed so much she got a better job along with a husband that made more than the first. i'm so proud of her now and i actually like my stepdad.
so you never know...but take your time, consider your options, and do what's best for you, not just the kids. in the end, your happiness is their happiness.
good luck!
2006-08-30 16:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by madi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would. Not for the material things but for my kid/s.
Unless the relationship is abusive, emotionally or physically.
You learn to love the person you share your kids with, or u marry him in the first place coz of love.
You can be happy with a person and not be in love with him. You can try being friends and let that develop into something special.
There are no guarantees in life, you dont know if you will ever fall in love with another man and not fall out of it, like you did with the father of ur kids.
Divorce affects kids negatively, always. No 2 ways about it.
2006-08-30 15:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by saltnsaffron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
children are a blessing from God...material things aren't a good reason to stay married if ur not in love with each other..and plz don't stay becuz of the kids. goodluck
2006-08-30 15:43:49 · answer #6 · answered by justmenothinelse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a choice, so I have been told. If i were married and didnt have love, I would stick with it and try to work for love in the relationship. Not only because you have children, but because you married someone and thats a committment.
2006-08-30 15:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by kari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of "material things" are we talking about? Ther are too many factors to weigh to give you an answer yet. We would need to know more details about the other person. Send us another questions with many more details.
2006-08-30 17:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for children yes but not for the material things
2006-08-30 15:42:36 · answer #9 · answered by Gauri B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would. I've learned that you eventually fall out of love with everyone you're with - if this guy treats you well and loves your kids, then stay with him. It's what you signed up for, after all. Divorce really hurts kids in more ways than are immediately evident.
About the man, I say, "better the devil you know than the devil you don't" - they all suck in their own ways, but so do we.
2006-08-30 15:41:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋