Good afternoon. i want to know just one thing, my guy tells me to get out all the time because im not a real women, im fake and a phony and he says he cant trust me beucase i act like im going to leave him when im finished school and make lots of money?
but my question is, since im so bad why is it that he dosent want me to LEAVE! OR WHY IS HE JUST COMPLAINING ABOUT ME WHEN ITS HIS HOUSE AND I WILL HAVE TO LEAVE NO MATTER WHAT
2006-08-30 08:35:47 · 10 answers · asked by Justice A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's intimidated by you. If you really love him, you need to sit down and talk t him and tell him that you are not going to leave him after you leave school, so don't worry. Plus you ned to make sure that if you really do make a lot of money, make sure that he doesn't try to rule you into doing whatever he wants with your money. Jus try to make it work out with him.
2006-08-30 08:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by Brandon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First... do you give the impression that you are going to leave, once you finish school and get a job? Real, or imagined, your guy is very insecure about this issue. A lot of guys still hold on to the old ideology that it's the man's responsibility to provide for his woman. If he's thinking this way, he probably feels threatened by your potential success.
I know I'm not saying anything that hasn't already been said, but talk to him about it. And, not when you're arguing, but some night when you're just calmly enjoying each others company.
There's a five step process, in having a conversation of this nature...
> State the problem
> Get him to tell his side of how/why he feels this way. And, be prepared to ask lots of open ended questions, to get him to open up.
> Tell him how you feel about his behavior... be honest.
> For better or worse, come up with a solution that works for both of you.
> Get a commitment on, and follow thru on your solution.
Good luck. I hope it works out for you!
2006-08-30 16:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by bcc1966 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three words to explain it. Control, Control, Control. He's trying to make you give concessions in the relationship. Making you commit before he does. This is not a good way to live. If you really care for him and want him, get him some therapy. If he doesn't want to go and gets really mad, you may be best to reconsider your relationship. Don't ruin too many years of your life on this.
2006-08-30 15:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by vmmhg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems like you deserve better, not him, tell him to shut his *** and you go find yourself a good guy that will care for you the way you want.
2006-08-30 15:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by z19er 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's already jealous of your future success. Might as well dump him now. He sounds like a real loser.
2006-08-30 15:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by jim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you still have not refused to have sex with him. He's will keep you around until you stop having sex with him or until he finds someone else. Sorry, he's a jerk.
2006-08-30 15:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by captianpr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to cop on to yourself and get out and get a life.
2006-08-30 15:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by frances g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you too much for him. well choose what u heart tells you.
2006-08-30 15:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mogul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone that degrade or demeans you - - dump them now - - anyone that doesn’t accept you for who you are right now - - dump them now
2006-08-30 15:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound more successful than him, move out!!
2006-08-30 15:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by Commander 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋