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I found my wife in a darkroom with someone else(the light were turned on), she swears that they where only looking for something when we happend to come in. I really want to believe her, but i feel hurt and don't know what to do,

Answer 1

You need to tell her that it hurt your feelings, and that you'd like to know that nothing happened, but you don't.
She needs to put herself in your shoes, and think about how she'd feel if she walked in on you with someone else.
I tend to think that a persons reaction to being accused of inappropriate conduct tells a lot. I think that if she is acting calmly and maturely, and is able to understand how you feel, then likely nothing went down. If she is angry, and denies it adamantly, and is trying to divert attention away from herself by bringing up things that you've done, then she's likely guilty of acting inappropriately.
I think she can't fix it now, but she'll make different decisions about what situations she allows herself to be in in the future.
I think that once you've discussed this with her, you'll need to get off the subject, don't bring it up again, and just wait and see. You don't want to cause a lifelong rift, if nothing happened.
Good luck

Answer 2

What she says could be true. When you say "we happened to come in" who's the "we"? If the lights were on then there is nothing to worry about.

If you don't see your wife in the act of kissing, lovemaking then you are maybe over reacting a little. In other words don't assume. Maybe you might be a little insecure? Or maybe you are or have done something you are ashamed of and are in need of a confession to her? You are hurt for "thinking" she may be doing something? Try to get over it and be good to each other. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 3

HA!....Looking for something?....In the DARK?....That's the best they could come up with? There is obviously something going on...I wouldn't believe otherwise for a second. Slap both of them and find someone else.

Answer 4

if you are marriged, this is one of the times that you are going to have to forget AND LET IT GO. if you hold on to it, your marrige will not to be able to grow because you have it in the back of your mind. both if there is something going BELIEVE ME IT WILL COME OUT SOONER OR LATER