I am thinking of leaving my husband after 11 yrs. We have three kids. I know I can count on him to support them, but I have been a stay at home mom. I have no job skills. I want to know what I will be getting from him before I make the descion to leave. Money will be very very tight at first.
2006-08-30 08:11:42 · 17 answers · asked by armywifetp 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
No I am not basing the descision on how much money I get. I need to know so I can plan on how to support my children for the first few months after. I know I will get custody. My husband is in the army and with his job he can't be a single parent.
2006-08-30 08:20:59 · update #1
Each state has their own set of standards for figuring child support. For example, in NY and NJ they take the primary wage earner's income, and a percentage of that is awarded per child. If the custodial parent is working as well, some states factor that income, some don't.
You can find out the amount where you live by contacting Child Services, Social Services, etc, and many divorce attorneys will give you the amount for free if you call and ask nicely to one of their paralegals.
Just so you know, if you leave, and the divorce proceeding takes a while, you may not get support in the interim. If he is agreeable to the divorce, that should be the first conversation you have with him, to work out an amount each month that you will be happy to tell the court he has been paying while seperated. Makes both of you look good in family court.
2006-08-30 08:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I wanna say truly look at ALL your options before you go into this, even if its just for the kids, I'm sure he hasn't changed that much but none of my business, to answer your question, Child support is based on a certain percentage which is higher with the amount of children. Now as a stay at home mom, you might be able to push for alimony. If your husband makes a good figure paychecc then he will get a percentage of that pulled.
2006-08-30 08:19:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont make the decision on how much money you will be getting from him, on whether to leave him or not. You make it for the kids and yourself. Trust me, its going to take a long time for you to get that first check.. Im pretty sure, you have to finalize the divorce before you get a check from your husband. You just need to really do whats best for the kids and yourself and start looking at jobs now.. Even if its a waitress or a cashier at first.
2006-08-30 08:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the judge, your state laws, and his income.
If you don't have a really good grounds for divorce, the courts may see you as the one abandoning the marriage.
Also be careful: just because you're female does not mean you're automatically given the kids and the child support.
I know you probably don't want to hear this, but please stick with mariatal counseling a little longer. Unless he's being abusive or a danger to the kids, you don't need to leave today. For the kids' sake try to wait it out until they turn 18. It will devastate them. It's not as simple as "mommy lives here" and "daddy lives in another house".
2006-08-30 08:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by Funchy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the income of your husband. And I don't mean to be in your business, but u did put it on the Internet so here goes. After 11 years you want to leave your husband, have you considered going to counseling or something, that's a long time to just give up, but then again i don't know all the logistics, so go for it honey.
2006-08-30 08:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the state. They use different formulas. Check online with the local CS office and download the form to calculate
2006-08-30 08:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by daanzig 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will be screwed, he has to not only pay child support but alamony also, it will drop is gross income "no lower" then minimum wage... who ever said 90% is wrong, it will never drop "gross" income to lower then federal minimum wage.
so basicly you will get the rest.
i have full custody of my daughters and the mother has been ordered pay childsupport - a year ago - i have yet to see a dime..
so do not base your decision on what you will get but what you may not get...
2006-08-30 08:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by nunofyobiznit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably would have to pay spousal support also in mich they figure what the father makes and the mother it's a table chart you pay where this info falls under
2006-08-30 08:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check with the family court clerk in your state. most states have different formulas. you may also ask for alimony also in the proceedings. i suggest you try to get into some trainning soon so that you may become self sufficient mother for your children.
2006-08-30 08:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by milton b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of asking people who know nothing about your situation; or about the laws where you live, why not speak to a lawyer who can give you real answers?
2006-08-30 10:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋